Im in the middle of a mess. Im falling out of love to my bf bc he's showing bp attitude.

teaandtalk · 2018-06-24T20:15:49+00:00

Thanks for adding more detail.

It doesn't seem like you respect this guy at all - you don't have anything nice to say about him other than that he's sweet. Respect is vital in a relationship.

You can't turn him from a total beta into an alpha - in this case, it doesn't sound like the betaness has come about from a bad relationship or anything like that, it sounds like it's his natural personality (probably from being raised by a single mom).

I would say that there's not much you can do here to make him alpha-up, and you probably shouldn't try. There are plenty more fish in the sea, especially in Texas at your age, who you wouldn't have to try to change to respect.

[deleted] · 2018-06-23T19:31:04+00:00

I think alphas need love. They need to feel like you respect them for their strength, but it’s important for us to remember their human.

We all have dips in confidence. What’s important is our resilience to bounce back.

subgirl182 · 2018-06-24T18:47:38+00:00

He cried because you spoke to another guy on your course??

WhatIsThisAccountFor · 2018-06-23T23:20:10+00:00

we had a fight bc i had a doubt that i wanna shake off my head, i told him about it and he just lost his frame. He didnt reaasure so I'm still confuse and doubting and now im losing feelings with him

You have to clarify what happened here in much more detail. It's the only thing about your story that matters.

bloobird08 · 2018-06-24T09:08:01+00:00

I personally think a man making a lot less money would cause issues for both parties. There are exceptions of course, but do you really want to bank your future on being the exception? The good news is you have only been dating 2 months so you don’t have much invested, if you can’t handle this then you know what you need to do.

LateralThinker13 · 2018-06-25T15:19:06+00:00

I suspect your relationship isn't going to work. Sad thing is, he sounds like he has about the same SMV as you have RMV. He just isn't sexually stimulating to you because he's BP/passive.

That said, you need to work on yourself if you're going to do better. Other than you making lots of money (something most men don't care about) what do YOU bring to a relationship?

teaandtalk · 2018-06-23T22:36:24+00:00

We need more detail before we can provide any advice, could you be more specific about the issues you're having & the context of your relationship?

brockliz · 2018-06-26T19:07:05+00:00

From what you wrote, it does not appear you two are compatible. You said he’s a really sweet & nice - but so is my dog and my relatives, but i don’t date either of them ;) meanwhile, you had no problem easily rattling off numerous Items you perceive as flaws (he doesn’t wear sunscreen??, plays video games, stubbed his toe and wouldn’t finish a hike, “sounds like a loser” “boring”. does not need trp which you value,

In all seriousness though, why do you want to stay with him? Perhaps make a pro/con list and evaluate from there as we the readers only know of him based on this very small statement. You know him better and know all his qualities.

Have you expressed how you want him to maintain frame (for example: when we fight, you cannot put me on a pedastool or i will not appreciate you etc etc, or whatever things you want) after you do this - if he does not want to compromise on what you want, and you keep pushing - this may appear controlling. At this point, it’s better to find someone better suited for you.

You have only been with him two months and unfortunately already have so many negative emotions re: him. It sounds like you may be very young and it may be better to cut losses due to incompatibilities.

8xin1nite · 2018-06-26T10:59:18+00:00

You sound like you don't know what's you want, your eastern $$$ mindedness is messing with his westerness. I think he may deserve better doesn't seem like he is doing anything wrong here.

Title	Im in the middle of a mess. Im falling out of love to my bf bc he's showing bp attitude.
Author	thrwyfrrndomqstn
Upvotes	2
Comments	15
Date	June 23, 2018 7:25 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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