Emotional eating

red-pill-questions · 2016-10-10T22:14:31+00:00

There are many things you should do to lose weight.

However, if there is one thing that you, specifically, need to commit yourself to as a first step, it's this:

download myfitness pal. Log EVERY SINGLE THING YOU PUT IN YOUR MOUTH.

You don't even need to start with dieting. You dont need to educate yourself on nutrition. If you are feeling helpless and confused as to why you keep gaining weight back, it's because during those periods of weight gain, you are being IGNORANT to the calories you are comsuming.

Even if you are an emotional mess and can't stop binging, LOG IT. The guilt of knowing exactly how you are gaining the weight, via myfitnesspal's automated calorie count, is proof that you know exactly how it happened.

You should be lifting weights. Even if you won't see results under the layers of fat right now. It will help develope discipline and improve your mood. Dont worry about people at the gym seeing you roll in 150lbs overweight. I garuntee you that ever man that sees you in the gym trying your hardest will have nothing but the utmost respect for you (exceptions include teenage boys and girls, but fuckem, they have no life experience and have no idea what it's like to pull yourself out of a depression. All adults do.).

But again, log everything you eat in myfitnesspal. You will learn about nutrition as a side effect of doing this. Your only responsibility right now is to hold yourself accountable for your eating by never skipping a log. This is what you need at this stage.

bebopdebs · 2016-10-10T21:46:14+00:00

people here are going to tell you to meditate. Its not bad advice though

rpisnotpua · 2016-10-10T21:51:46+00:00

Don't worry about dieting.

If you're lifting, you're burning calories/fat. Focus on increasing your strength, and your fat% will drop.

When I started cooking for myself, just to make sure I was getting macros to match my lifts, my BMI dropped. Focusing on eating so much of what I need just didn't leave time to chew on the junk food. And ordering out, restaurants/fast food pack extra carbs and fat into everything, which is delicious, but just isn't giving me the protein I need. Chewing everything just gets really old.

Protein powder smoothies are great--powder, fruits and veggies (put strawberries in anything and you won't even notice the vegetables), and not too much milk...boom, you're full. A lot of calories, vitamins, and protein in one place.

TLDR: don't worry about "dieting". Google around to learn what you need to maximize your muscle gains, and eat that. If you're still hungry after you get what you need, there are plenty of donuts and doritos in the world. (My two weaknesses.)

I lost more weight in my life when I was paying video games, than anything else. Both hands busy, mind busy. Can't physically eat while doing it. Watching Netflix does not take two hands, however.

NikkyMontana · 2016-10-11T00:29:57+00:00

Remove all sweets and sodas

Only drink water and evoila you lose a ton of weight already and dont say you dont drink sodas or eat sweets cause that is the main reason you are at that weight

speaking from experience

SetConsumes · 2016-10-10T22:13:06+00:00

Be mindful when you eat and want to eat. Are you hungry? Or did something feel bad and make you want to eat to feel better, typically craving foods?

If you're feeling bad, note what you were thinking of or doing before hand.

For example, if I spend all day gaming, I feel bad for wasting time, and then want to eat to make myself feel better. Solution is then twofold, don't game all day, and when I do, I either have sex or workout instead of eat when that craving hits.

But other things can trigger me to want to eat, all various pains. Like feeling hopeless for example can do this.

Identify your pain. Resolve what you can, channel the rest into better outlets(working out, doing work, music, sex, sports, preferably not food or drugs).

7Fig · 2016-10-10T22:33:47+00:00

You have to get real with your goals. First off you're no where near 40% body fat. Look at this BMI Chart. Next make it simple. It is calories in versus calories out. Read the nutrition labels on everything you eat before you eat it. No more soda or candy at all! Water or tea to drink and make a plan on what you will eat before your day starts. Eat only when you plan to and only eat what is on the plan.

spicy_fries · 2016-10-10T22:47:46+00:00

Stop being weak in the mind. This is on you. You did this to yourself. It takes resolve, grit, determination, to climb out of the "fat" hole that you are in.

Every time you decide to eat a cookie, I want you to look in the mirror and say, "Enjoy your cookie you fat fuck."

The shame you feel should be so intense that you are motivated to stop doing it. It will either break you or make you the man you are supposed to be.

its_meKnightSwolaire · 2016-10-10T23:11:03+00:00

you can't do a temporary diet. you need an entire lifestyle change that cannot end.

quicklogaccount · 2016-10-10T23:29:43+00:00

To address the compulsion issue

I heard behavioral therapy works wonders for that sort of stuff, there are a few wonderful meds for all sorts of compulsions too, but I'd give therapy a shot before. Make sure you do analysis afterwards to figure out under what rug you swept the compulsion issue and try to get rid of it. lol

/u/SetConsumes suggested you some alternatives to eating, it might work but I'd give it a shot with therapy without trying that.

Other than that, there's beauty on nutrition. To lose fat, anything works. Any "school" will work for you, FOR NOW. Some are more efficient, work faster, but don't bother a lot about that.
FOR NOW, pick one that fits you better. Some will allow you to eat some stuff you like, others will be more focused in teaching you to like the right stuff. FOR NOW, you get to chose, but don't go down the DIY road, get a pro.

As for lifting, pick a gym with RESPONSIBLE teachers and trainers around, or just get a personal trainer if you can afford. Take their advice on whether bulk or just cutting, you have a few more variables to watch than most guys.

Anyway, if you're disciplined about it you should be climbing up on the guy's scale pretty fast, I'd gladly start over at 40%+ body fat to be that fucking tall. lol

Asheal88 · 2016-10-11T00:18:51+00:00

Eating healthy is a given, listen to the boys here.

I would add the need to find an active hobby THAT YOU ENJOY and practice it until you are dead every day you can, remember rest is just as important!

You are going to suck at anything you do so pick what you like or want to do. I started MMA at 25 and was so embarrassed when I began. Now at 34 I have a few belts and 2 amateur fights behind me.

And you have something interesting to offer in conversation other than just, the gym.

BrodinsOats · 2016-10-11T03:44:49+00:00

Overeating is a proper disorder of addiction, and you ought to seek help from a mental health professional. I'm about 5 years clean from heroin but binging on food is still a very real problem for me.

You can also try checking out Overeaters Anonymous. Hopefully you would be able to meet people who have overcome this problem, for a source of inspiration and guidance.

ThatKassiusGuy · 2016-10-11T05:02:18+00:00

I recommend reading a book called 'Brain over Binge' by Kathryn Hansen. It's really good and can even help you with other problems you might have, some valuable insight on habits and addictions as well.

cashcow1 · 2016-10-11T21:00:49+00:00

If you've only been lifting a short time, I'd focus primarily on building strength and muscle, and perhaps making some small diet changes (cut down junk food, etc.)

You'll see a ton of changes just from lifting.

Title	Emotional eating
Author	Waffle_squid
Upvotes	5
Comments	17
Date	October 10, 2016 9:01 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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