The root of all unattractiveness is neediness; the root of all attractiveness is non-neediness.

CoyoteMiyamoto · 2021-04-05T11:37:14+00:00

The root of attractiveness is not non-neediness. Neediness will destroy her attraction for you, but it's not the main factor.

If you made the decision to be exclusive and don't even think about talking to girls, your subconscious knows that she's the only one. You won't ever consider meeting new women with that mindset.

themostgianthorse · 2021-04-05T11:54:18+00:00

Did you just get done reading Models?

Non-neediness is a piece of the pie. It’s like when guys here say to pull your attention for a soft next. Your attention must be worth something in the first place for that to be effective.

I’ve been in an LTR for a year. I still chat other women up at the gym, grocery store, wherever. I’m not trying to pull them. It’s just the way I am however, in hindsight, it’s good to still exercise the muscle.

I know that if (or when) LTR and I split, I’ll be fine. I went to a birthday party with LTR and her friends last weekend. One of her girl friends was feeding me cake and LTR sees this and she gives me the “oh. Is this what we’re doing now” line. I laughed.

Abundance is internal. It’s knowing that whether you have 1 or 100 women, you’ll be good.

power_cleaner · 2021-04-05T16:49:36+00:00

Its hard to have abundance when you’re deep in a relationship. Unless you have an extremely high smv.

Abundance for everything in life is the solution to most problems. Not just girls.

miser1 · 2021-04-05T13:05:11+00:00

People on TRP talk about these things as if they're universal. They aren't. I live in Japan and can tell you neediness works differently here because it's a different culture.

maxofreddit · 2021-04-05T14:14:02+00:00

Non-neediness doesn’t have to do with women.

It has to do with being on point with the bigger mission of your life, whatever you’ve determined that to be. Being the best snowboarder, programmer, stock trader, dancer, whatever, means that you are headed someplace with purpose, and chances are, you don’t need sexual attention from women to get there.

Non-neediness doesn’t come from a monologue in your head, it comes from having better shit to do, like lifting and moving your life forward.

Don_Draper27 · 2021-04-05T14:36:25+00:00

Read "Models" by Mark Manson.

Mustbeaight · 2021-04-05T19:35:45+00:00

Like one commenter pointed out it’s like saying that if you run away from them they’ll chase.. you well they don’t care about chasing you because you got nothing they want lmao

boredathome19 · 2021-04-05T20:45:20+00:00

Is it even possible to be non-needy as a guy if you are only dating one (really hot) girl exclusively?

Yes. If you choose to be loyal to a LTR, but know that you can easily get more pussy if you decide to go for it, why would that make you needy?

Title	The root of all unattractiveness is neediness; the root of all attractiveness is non-neediness.
Author	IamCayal
Upvotes	24
Comments	23
Date	April 5, 2021 11:32 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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