I went from being the cool girl to trying to be more feminine and it had opposite effects

ManguZa · 2021-06-07T11:06:37+00:00

You seem pretty rough around the edge based of your writing. Maybe you're not as feminine as you think? That there are non enough masculine men in the world is a given, but that's often a vicous circle linked to non enough feminine women.

Moreover, demanding respect and expecting some investment from women toward them (men) is a normal masculine thing. Traditionnal relationship is not all about protecting and loving the woman, it goes both way.

CountTheBees · 2021-06-07T11:10:56+00:00

Since when did feminine women demand anything?

SuperSupremeKai · 2021-06-07T10:45:13+00:00

I live in a pretty liberal area too.

Isn't that the problem?

pearlsandstilettos · 2021-06-07T11:36:47+00:00

Removed. We are not here to argue with you. Rants where you have no intention to improve are not RPW

blushingoleander · 2021-06-07T11:18:15+00:00

How did you demand to be treated feminine? What does feminine mean to you?

blueberrypanda1 · 2021-06-07T11:42:39+00:00

OP you have the Right intentions to look for a masculine man and to want to be a feminine woman. It sounds like you didn’t have any feminine role models that helped you to understand male / female dynamics. I think what some of the other commenters took issue with is you saying you “demand” to be treated a certain way. It’s not feminine to “demand” a man treat you in a certain way, but rather the way to do it is to present a feminine energy that makes men want to treat you a certain way and if they do not - then they are probably not a high value masculine male and you move on to find a man who is . Demanding something in a relationship is not graceful / feminine and will turn off masculine men. If you never had a feminine woman in your life to teach you this you may not know it. With my partner - I do not tell him what to do. I tell him what I want and need and desire and let him figure out the how. He always does because that allows his masculine energy to shine. You should check out Renee Wade The Feminine Woman. There are a lot of great resources you can use to learn more. Also there may be mostly liberal men where you live and that means there are mostly liberal women too. If you can find a conservative man he will be happy to find you as well because it will also be hard for him.

Jaywoody21 · 2021-06-07T11:28:10+00:00

Liberal men are weak. At the same time, you cannot ask to be treated like a feminine woman if you don't act or have the mentality to act like one

KombuchaEnema · 2021-06-07T10:55:45+00:00

Yeah, I do think the issue is the men around you. Have you tried looking at guys who are into trades? I’ve noticed if you go to college you can expect to find guys who get their eyebrows done and need someone to coddle them. Or, alternatively, you get the guys who party every night and are only in college because mom and dad will kick them out if they don’t go.

Guys in trades, on the other hand, are usually pretty tough. I’m talking electricians, plumbers, autobody, etc.

You won’t find them on a college campus and generally they’re known for being hardasses. I wouldn’t last a second with the banter that my husband has with his coworkers (he’s in autobody), and I’m someone who’s usually pretty tough when it comes to banter.

All of his coworkers have stay-at-home wives and traditional marriages. It’s the one last bastion of traditional men.

Title	I went from being the cool girl to trying to be more feminine and it had opposite effects
Author	Nightshift_Owll
Upvotes	10
Comments	32
Date	June 7, 2021 10:17 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/nu8xs0/i_went_from_being_the_cool_girl_to_trying_to_be/
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