Does anyone else here get laughed at in public?

FrameWalker · 2016-11-26T14:19:35+00:00

Remember the following from the Taos of Stoicism:

Everything you perceive is LOCAL, TEMPORARY, and INTERNAL.

LOCAL:

Get in your car and drive a few miles. Most problems you can get away from in that fashion - even if it's likely you have to return to sort it out, there's always an escape for many things.

TEMPORARY:

Most problems don't last forever. You either get used to them, or they end. SOmeone laughing at you is as temporary as it gets.

INTERNAL

Your perception of the laughter around you is the problem. Even if they are laughing at you, is it from making fun of you, is it joy at seeing you? Is it a nervous girl getting her panties wet? you just don't know mate, you just have your own perspective. Understand that your perspective is not the global perspective. Solipism is somethign we harp on often, and it's this belief that what goes on in your head is what goes on across the world.

It is a mistake to believe that the phenomenon you see is external, permanent, and global. Think about both your joy and your anxiety in the same way and you should be able to keep your wits about you and get out of your head.

HolographicWhaleTail · 2016-11-26T13:57:20+00:00

It's probably pretty common to think it's happening, but it's not normal, especially since no one's really laughing at you.

648262 · 2016-11-26T14:13:20+00:00

People do not tend to look at other people that they don't know and laugh at them. People are usually busy living their lives.

Do not worry too much about this. It is your brain playing tricks on you.

anabolic92 · 2016-11-26T14:22:19+00:00

I also get the feeling like people looks at me weird, as if I had booger or my shirt backwards or smth weird in my face, then I remember I'm bald and my face looks weird as fuck so everything makes sense

PraetereoBonobos · 2016-11-26T16:18:33+00:00

No one cares about you dude. Accept that and move on.

All_Ads_Deceive · 2016-11-26T22:24:15+00:00

You're either schizophrenic and/or not buff enough

MattyAnon · 2016-11-26T16:17:26+00:00

This very unlikely to be happening unless you're in a really good clown suit.

More likely you are misinterpreting what is happening.

subjectivealpha · 2016-11-26T16:35:02+00:00

It's all in your head. I had this problem too when my anxiety was really bad. 99% of the time people aren't laughing about you.

manakiii · 2016-11-26T14:38:19+00:00

People with social anxiety always think this. People randomly make eye contact or look at strangers several times a day. They were laughing about some unrelated topic, you happened to be near and a member of the group looks at you, possibly followed by another

Sensei_Hensei · 2016-11-26T15:05:43+00:00

It's the social anxiety talking to you. Most are out and going on about their day.

Redpill1591 · 2016-11-26T15:10:50+00:00

Never happened once to me.

It's your social anxiety getting in your head. When I was fat and extremely self conscious I used to have this irrational fear that the people I saw laughing or whispering in public were talking about me. But the fear is just that, irrational. It's all in your head. Unless you are objectively hideous or have some sort of deformity they are almost certainly not laughing at you.

Yashugan00 · 2016-11-26T17:37:26+00:00

Are you walking around with an exaggerated spring in your step when you're actually a scrawny guy? No? Then you're possibly taking things too personally. People laugh, it isn't always about you.

menial_optimist · 2016-11-26T19:25:42+00:00

I would only think this if I was super high walking around in public.

aurelius_shrugs · 2016-11-27T00:52:01+00:00

What are you carrot top? Fuck no your average nobody does not get laughed at randomly in public.

do_it_or_leave · 2016-11-27T02:29:57+00:00

Do you laugh at random people?? Why would you think people would bf so different?

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-12-02T01:49:04+00:00

The fuck man, sounds like paranoia. Personally I usually got glances of interest or down right admiration/respect. It's about how valuable you are I guess. I really hope you get on top of that mountain and experience it for yourself. You will if you work hard enough.

brideboy · 2016-11-26T15:26:55+00:00

Obsessing over the way people thought about my was a nightmare. I found out i put more effort into deciphering people's opinion of myself more than they cared to.

Forget it and move on.

Title	Does anyone else here get laughed at in public?
Author	masterpiece00
Upvotes	9
Comments	19
Date	November 26, 2016 1:43 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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