Why being bald is such a blow for getting girlfriend/FWB or any girl as a friend?

GayLubeOil · 2016-12-04T11:30:45+00:00

5'7 at 150 pounds fit is roughly the equivalent of 6ft 170 pounds by BMI. Which is to say "healthy". It's not muscular it's not top 20% percent it's not anything special as far as women are concerned.

In fact your reasoning is very common place at TRP: I go to the gym like I am supposed to why don't I get girls.

It's what I call the participation trophy mentality. Your not trying to be the biggest or strongest or Fastest or crossfitest or whatever.

And I get it, lifting isn't everything.

However I am willing to bet that this participation trophy mentality is present at all aspects of your life.

Which is why women arnt fucking you. And honestly we at Red Pill should thank them for their decision. The world needs more winners and less participators.

MattyAnon · 2016-12-04T15:49:14+00:00

My doctor said gaining weight beyond this point won't be healthy for me.

What the fuck? How is extra muscle ever unhealthy? Your doc is talking shit and you want to believe.

I see many fat slobs, skinny dudes, guys with glasses, autistic speaking or anyone that would not pass alpha bar by RP theory having girlfriends/wives.

A wife isn't a trophy, a wife is a cost. Being married isn't an achievement any more than paying for a hooker is an achievement. You know what's an achievement? Banging women for free rather than putting your testicles in her handbag.

What shall I do? Am I beyond condition of repair or hope? Should I just give up and die without any companionship

Wanting companionship is the wrong mentality, and it's making you needy. This is the last-place consolation-prize of the sexual marketplace, and it's not real.

The closest you get to companionship is "been fucking her for years and she quite likes it". It's an option LATE in the relationship, not at the start.

At the start you're at the sharp end of the sexual marketplace - your attractiveness vs her options. It's all about confidence, game, looks, social indicators, etc. It is NOT about companionship, intimacy or any of that. Going for marriage/companionship/intimacy/company makes you a needy loser. It will only net you fat lonely old women with no better options who "just want to cuddle". (And even they lie - the reason they "just want to cuddle" is because they can't attract a man they actually want to fuck).

And being bald is fine you dumb idiot. Just don't be balding or have a fucking combover. Receding too far? Just fucking shave it all off and look like a badass.

From now on, aim for attraction and sex rather than companionship or dating. You're asking for special exemption from the sexual marketplace, and women are not fooled. They don't understand why, but they don't like your approach for this reason.

You are a male animal wanting to fuck a female animal. All the rest (balding, companionship, brown skin, whatever) is mental gibberish. Maximise your attractiveness, get what you can.

Not to say you don't have problems being attractive, I'm sure you do. Thing is... we all do. Apart from me, I'm so pretty it would make your eyes bleed. Seriously though, I've got advantages and disadvantages. Some women are completely repelled by some of my disadvantages. That's fine - their choice and there's plenty more who see only the advantages.

As a foreign looking man, you actually have a slight advantage because women prefer "somewhat different to my fucking brother" in a man. There's plenty who love darker skin. Your job is to find them. Quit bitchin and be hot.

Archwinger · 2016-12-04T21:37:24+00:00

Everybody out there knows at least one bald guy with a girlfriend, at least one short guy with a girlfriend, at least one non-white brown-ish guy with a girlfriend. Even at least one mediocre 5'7" 150# dude with a girlfriend.

Nobody knows a loser with your attitude that's getting laid on the regular.

ItsTheHomeWrecker · 2016-12-04T10:43:04+00:00

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IVIaskerade · 2016-12-04T12:54:40+00:00

I mean, you're whining about how life isn't fair. No shit, but you'd be better off going out and doing something than sitting complaining. Approach more women, get into a new sport, anything other than sitting and thinking about how you'll never get anywhere.

dendsm111 · 2016-12-04T17:47:40+00:00

Get a new doctor, and stop being a faggot.

spoon_for_the_poon · 2016-12-04T16:40:19+00:00

I hardly ever post, but I feel like I have to share this anecdote with you. I have a bro that I've known for years,same height, skinny but doesn't work out. He started going bald in his early twenties. Completely shaves head by mid 20s. That shit never stopped him. One of the biggest player in the game. Always talking to girls, and taking them home.

It's the attitude bro. He was sure about himself regardless of his deficiencies. You gotta work on that same mental game. That's how it gets better.

perfectd3 · 2016-12-04T17:03:28+00:00

I live in Seattle...

One of the worst cities for damaged goods and girls running the Tinder Cock Carousel.

If I approach women without IoI, I get rejected hard...

They haven't experienced a bald-man that's turned them on before. It's not her fault if there hasn't been a guy that made her into anal, and it's not her fault if she hasn't dated a guy who's made bald non-issue, or even attractive. It's your opportunity to be their turn-on for it. You assume being bald is what's holding you back, but even if someone has told you that, it's what you're telling yourself that's making it a reality. If you're not making anyone feel like they're the ones missing out on a good time, then it's on you to improve your frame.

This is happening despite the fact that I go the gym and look very much in the shape. I have gained 10 lbs and went from 140 lbs to 150 lbs with moderate looking arms. My doctor said gaining weight beyond this point won't be healthy for me...

Your setting limits for yourself. Did you ever ask your doctor why, or did you want to hear that? If it's at all based on BMI, then that answer is full of shit, because BMI is a horse-shit indicator of a healthy weight. Calculate your body fat %, and look up all the content you can about the benefits of reducing body fat % and evaluate if it's something that's worth your time, (TRP and other communities have great resources on effects of reducing body fat %.)

I have Vitamin D and B12 deficiency.

Almost everybody that lives up where you and I do deal with this, (Washington, Alaska, Canada/BC, Oregon, Yukon etc.) 90%+ of men who've gotten a girlfriend/wife are still Vitamin D deficient. Here's an excerpt from another comment talking about a similar issue:

The research that's gone into winter's affects on mental health present a very real concern, stemming from the limited exposure to sunlight that only presents six hours between sunrise and sunset, exposing people to only four hours of daylight between the two,* resulting in everyone being Vitamin D deficient which amplifies symptoms of depression,* which causes our nation's highest rates of suicide per-capita in one of the least populated states in the country, (Alaska.)* It's a real concern, and for communities such as mine, it's not something we can ignore. We just went through a winter storm, with hurricane-force conditions, with winds of constant 70MPH tearing down trees. With that kind of shit going on outside, most folks say it's not really anyone's business to be outside. It's a cold, wet and windy winter, and the cold just digs down into your bones and into your mind. So with science and chemistry playing a winning game against you in the winter, how can people still be concerned with maintaining a positive outlook? This does not only affect Alaska, and if you feel like you have seasonal Depression, consult with your doctor about if Vitamin D deficiencies may play a part in that.

I tried growing beard as well but nothing is helping me out...

You're all over the appearance issue, so google, "attractive/hot bald men." When looking, mostly all of them are super clean cut. That works for them, and when looking at famous bald guys, it's an image that's very iconic of attractive bald men: very defined and clean cut. Business Insider rated Mr. Clean #9 on the top 10 sexiest Brand Icons. Adding to the beard, if you know it works, you'll know. If you're unsure, then you either should be 100% confident that it adds to your appearance, or not at all.

If you're still looking at just Jason Statham and Vin Diesel, Check out Sir Patrick Stewart:

While playing Capt. Jean-Luc Picard in Star Trek: The Next Generation, was astonished to learn he'd been dubbed Sexiest Man on TV in a TV GUIDE readers poll in 1992, and Most Bodacious Man on TV the following year.

Interview from Patrick Stewart about baldness, "... It hit me all at once at 19, and [to me], my life was over..."

Another example of bald aging well: J.K. Simmons. His Music-Conductor-From-Hell performance won an Oscar for Best Supporting Actor in 2015's "Whiplash." His entire performance is captivating, and he is very, very bald, and looks fucking fantastic. His performance provides examples for two things: Age isn't stopping you from looking great by hitting the gym, and you don't need the Channing Tatum/Dwane Johnson/Vin Diesel almost-needs-a-personal-trainer body to look good, (Whiplash deserved that Oscar, and is definitely worth watching if you're a movie person.)

TRP rules state that content focusing on movies/lyrics/actors and stuff represents an unrealistic standard, but we're not focusing on Vin Diesel. It's about being bald, and being successful. J.K. Simmons, Patrick Stewart, Mark Strong, all of their performances stand on their own merits. Their merits do not rely on hair, and as actors their performances are commonly very dramatic, and very captivating, because a big part of them is they're inviting you into their frame. That's what comes next.

I see many fat slobs, skinny dudes, guys with glasses, autistic speaking or anyone that would not pass alpha bar by RP theory having girlfriends/wives. I don't smoke and rarely drink and don't have any habit that can be considered harmful...

People want to be in their frame. That's it. They don't need TRP truths to understand that. If they're fat slobs, their frame is at a higher value than them being overweight. About a decade ago, the Late Patrice O'neal shared on his radio program, "The Black Phillip Show" a great example of what powerful frame looks like,

"If you look at any picture of Oprah and Stedman - now Oprah owns islands, she owns influence. Oprah is a beast. But if you look at any picture of them, Oprah is always curled up in a ball next to Stedman. She's always in the picture WITH Stedman. Stedman's NEVER Mr. Oprah! Now watch Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt. He is in the picture with HER. Pushing African babies around and shit. Women don't like to be the boss."

It's in your power to create a frame that people want to be in, and a big part of that is being indifferent to people being in it in the first place. You gotta be happy with yourself first.

What shall I do? Am I beyond condition of repair or hope? Should I just give up and die without any companionship?

What can we do to help you help yourself? I'm hoping that our responses will help you make that distinction.

You've taken ownership by starting your journey, and are on the path to learn more than millions of people are willing to do. I personally went bald @ 17/18, am under 6'. I can also guarantee you that 95% of folks in our neck of the woods are Vitamin D deficient, and this is the time of year where your motivation is going to be at it's lowest. By knowing that, make decisions to turn it into your bitch.

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redpillnexus · 2016-12-04T17:04:21+00:00

If you get bald, you need to compensate by getting jacked up at the gym and look like Jason Statham. Thats the only way really.

LewisCross · 2016-12-04T18:45:06+00:00

Couple of things.

1) If you're bald, shave it. Maybe grow a goatee.

2) >5'7" brown skin

Are you of East Indian/Indochinese extraction? Not much you can do about it, but that's important to the analysis in the US SMP.

3) I don't get the 'don't gain more weight' thing. if you're gaining muscle, then there shouldn't be a problem with this. If you're gaining bulk/fat, yes, that's a problem.

4)

I am still not receiving any single IoIs from any women. I live in Seattle.

It probably is either (a) your race, and youre not finding women who are attracted to men of your ethnicity because you're having to compete with more attractive white men and black men; or (b) you're doing something else wrong; or (c) the locale where you live is populated with a glut of men and a dearth of women. It's almost certainly (a) and (b); could also be (c) but I don't know the demos in SeaTac.

The other things you're probably doing wrong include this

If I approach women without IoI

Stop doing that. You can't do that. Other men probably can. You can't, because you're a brown skinned short dude. Sorry. Them's the facts. You need to get into a social group with lots of different sorts of men and women, where youre meeting friends of friends. Brown skinned short dudes in the US look full on creepy approaching girls they don't know without IOI. They just do. Sorry.

Check your Game. Usually with this problem, you're not talking right, you don't look right, or you don't act right.

edwardhwhite · 2016-12-04T19:35:17+00:00

I have owned my baldness longer than I've looked like Jason Statham. Just own it. Lift a lot.

FrameWalker · 2016-12-04T20:09:16+00:00

Look youre doctor is assuming weight gain is fat. Unless your doctor is a fitness buff hes another crab kn the bucket. 150 would be awesome if you were st 6% bodyfat, thst means abs pop out hard. Youre probably at 20 percent. Id get tob170 or 175 at 12 to 15% bf if I were you.

BigRedRover · 2016-12-04T20:25:44+00:00

My doctor said gaining weight beyond this point won't be healthy for me.

LOL? No, it doesn't work like that unless you're a big fatass, which you don't seem to be.

You need to work on the other aspects of the shit too, not just lifting and gaining 10 pounds.

AskmeIfIamFapping · 2016-12-05T00:12:32+00:00

You can't get a FWB because you are a little girl and not a man. Straight girls don't want to be friends with benefits with other girls.
You cant get a gf because you can't get a FWB. No one wants a loser or a man with no options.
girls make terrible friends. I think this one is in your favor.

anabolic92 · 2016-12-04T13:18:58+00:00

Look my post history pretty much saying the same you are stating.

I also go to the gym and look relatively good physique wise, diet on point, training almost ED and using steroids.

I trim my beard every weekend n the barber.

I fixed my teeth for 3k.

I dress with slim fit clothes.

I have a half sleeve and some other tattoos that some dudes in here have told me (I had them before and I didn't do them because of that) to go to the badass look.

I shave my head ED when I shower.

Getting my body hair removed by laser (when you are fit it makes a big difference).

And guess what? I won't get any single IOI from even a fucking whale with crocked teeth who doesnt even shower.

Trust me, and I would like to be the last person to say this in this world, being bald at a young age is being dead. All of a sudden you are like something as usefull as a sock to a women, they know you are there but you are simply just there, get too close and you are annoying.

It's your early death, you can't control it, all of a sudden your entire face simmetry changes, there's something missing on your face, too much skin and too few hair, you are not attractive.

I am sorry man but we must accept it and as harsh as it is move on, loneliness is terrible I feel you.

GlennBeckAmerica · 2016-12-04T09:45:16+00:00

I'm 6'1 with an above average looking face . Full head of hair too. And I'm the same boat as you my man. Keep improving ...or some shit . Ive been shooting meth all day

Title	Why being bald is such a blow for getting girlfriend/FWB or any girl as a friend?
Author	iriut09
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Date	December 4, 2016 9:21 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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