Need pep talk please

Mind-Objective · 2021-02-05T02:03:00+00:00

That girlfriend of his is not important to your life and neither is he.

The relationship has been done and over with for over a year. You have been able to make it on your own without him and I trust you will keep on doing so.

People rarely change. It’s not “you weren’t good enough for him” or “you’re less than anybody”; it’s he found a girl who is willing to tolerate his bullshit. On that note, don’t start thinking you were too weak or sensitive for no longer putting up with it. You’re not, you’re normal. There’s nothing special about a girl who chooses to tolerate awful behavior; she would just be a doormat. And you’re better than that.

Don’t look back sis, because you have every right to ask for a respectful, healthy relationship. After all, you were clearly not getting it.

moxymoxalone · 2021-02-05T02:08:38+00:00

Not sure what makes you think he treats her better than he treated you, but I’d bet my 401k that he doesn’t.

w1tchyw0man · 2021-02-05T02:22:59+00:00

I know how it feels. In my case I was abused by him, and was told that I taught him how not to treat someone and that now he knows how to treat the next one better. He cheated with the new one, and moved in with her 4 weeks after our break up. Hurts like hell

blackflowerx3 · 2021-02-05T02:21:30+00:00

You 👏 are 👏 a 👏 bad 👏 bitch 👏 who 👏 deserves 👏 the 👏world 👏

And he probably has halitosis, hemorrhoids, etc.

BabyGothQ · 2021-02-05T07:49:24+00:00

Honestly? Pity her. She needs it lmao send her good vibes, send her love, send her what you needed.

Because he damn sure isn’t giving it to her.

No one, and I mean NO ONE, can go from being abusive/toxic in one relationship to absolutely loving and caring in the next, not unless they got 5-10 years worth of INTENSIVE therapy. And I mean, radically intensive lmao or they’re faking.

exhalefierceness · 2021-02-06T14:48:28+00:00

I completely understand how you feel. A similar situation happened to me, except mine was almost for 8 years and he was in a new relationship within months after our breakup.

In social media it will seem like he's happy, it will seem like he's okay and he's a changed man with this new person. Believe me, he's not. No one will put their worst image on social media. Men don't change for anyone, they just get better at manipulating. When someone does you wrong, they will get their cup of karma eventually. No one gets away with that even when it seems like it. He lost you. What did you lose? Garbage. One day, he's seriously going to regret that. but you know what? The day that he does, oh my goodness, you're going to be so leveled up, that he will not matter anymore. Feel bad for his new girlfriend because they only get worse. You'll see when it's the right time, you dodged a bullet.

Now, it's time to focus on the one person who truly matters, and that's you.

Title	Need pep talk please
Author	thenotoriousaep
Upvotes	38
Comments	10
Date	February 4, 2021 10:39 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askFDS
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