Has this happened to anybody else? 🤔

Comfortable_Intern57 · 2021-07-18T20:24:25+00:00

Most women aren't like that, you were chasing after a very materialistic girl. Don't let it bother you, most people don't have a car right out of high school.

Yesm3can · 2021-07-19T03:05:58+00:00

Financial comfort is important. I will say that to anyone. Men or women, young or old, single or in relationship, etc.

I have lived in different countries, from third to first world, money talks. In some places more or less than the other.

So go get them financial success...but do it only for yourself. And to your personal comfort and not other people. If you feel -personally- comfortable in your current financial situation, then nothing should change. If a partner demanding you to have a certain car, certain money, etc to even have the chance to date her, give her the big nope. It is 2021. If she wants that car, that house, that standard of living, she can have them by working for these things herself (like a lot of women out there have done too).

atman714 · 2021-07-18T22:05:22+00:00

As long as you date, you're going to find women like that. People just suck, unfortunately. My best friend was interested in this girl who turned him down because she "only went for grown men with houses." I personally found this hilariously hypocritical because the girl was only like 20 years old, had no stable job, lived with her parents, yet expects the opposite out of men.

Anyway, this luckily isn't the majority of people from what I've experienced. There's a common myth that I've seen in TRP manosphere that you have to be like this perfect man before you should even think about dating. As if you have to own a house, a fancy car, have a high paying job, be able to bench press 225, and have a six pack before a decent woman would consider you. If anything, I'd say having all these things would more likely attract shallow/materialistic women, as the one you've had experiences with.

Alot of women will pick a man and help develop him and work on the relationship as a team. My girlfriend does that, my sister has done that to her fiance, and my mom even did that with my dad. There are women out there who don't expect men to be perfect, and will work with you to reach your goals. But in return you should also work with them to reach whatever goals they have as well!

Also, I might add: if you play the game of, "she likes me for my power, wealth, and status," that's fine, but you can't complain if you get screwed over in the end when she finds a guy with more wealth and status. Similarly, women who play the game of "I'm a young, beautiful trophy wife for this rich CEO" should expect a disappointment when he leaves her or cheats with an even younger and more beautiful "trophy wife."

RedPillDetox · 2021-07-19T08:46:36+00:00

In addition to what everyone has said, i'd just add that a woman who rejects a guy because of a car and is interested in drug dealers is obviously trash. Any kind of girl with those kind of priorities is trash. As a matter of fact, i'd judge it as a red flag for non-gf material. Women who prioritize shallowness are usually narcisitic or don't put much emphasis on an emotional connection. So the more girls are open about it the better.

WediSesa · 2021-07-19T20:03:00+00:00

She rejected you because she wasn't attracted to you. The car was just plausible deniability to not hurt your ego.

badboishah · 2021-07-20T17:43:42+00:00

Man, I just can't tell you how fucking relatable is this. This girl I've been dating right now is actively trying to be in my life even how hard I tried to push her away. I'm Right now in college and work for my own expenses so I'm not anywhere Rich but I really love her like cuz she's been in love with me since she was a teenager and I pushed her away cuz I was 18+ but she came back and now even harder in love. I'll just make a post by this point cuz everyone else should read my story too. And I have her name saved as Ride or die so it was just like a nail to the coffin for me

SilentEngineering638 · 2021-07-18T23:22:39+00:00

Very common, It happened to me. I just moved to a new country and after 3 months of dating I got the "yeah you don't have a car it's not practical in the long run". I mean, bitch, I just moved here and you knew it, buying a car was not my priority. Why lead me on if a car is a dealbreaker?

This is why I don't date anymore

vaporwav3r · 2021-07-23T17:23:55+00:00

I would avoid dating people while you’re down.. especially cause when you’re up you know you’re going to want better. It seems here like you might have some other issues, like low self esteem. No shame in that, get to a therapist and talk to someone.

But Please: stop dragging women through your “ride or Die” phase. Why do we have to die? Why do we have to be drug through the mud and go through hard ship to prove our worth? And what often happens is that when the guy gets money, loses the weight, gets better etc, he dumps the ride or die girl and goes for the women he really wants or can get now that he’s up. I’m not trying to come at you but look at it from a different perspective.

Nothing wrong with having some fun and biding time while you build, but don’t drag a women (likely with low standards and low self esteem) through your building phase to “hold you down.”

Title	Has this happened to anybody else? 🤔
Author	dezmyers
Upvotes	4
Comments	14
Date	July 18, 2021 8:16 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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