How does TRP community handle paying for drinks, dinner, or really paying for anything in regards to dating/spinning plates?

lietruth · 2017-01-04T18:22:58+00:00

The general rule I use for paying for things:

If you're asking a person out (man or woman) then the bill is on you.

Example: if I invite my brother out to dinner, I'm footing the bill. Because I want to and because that's abundance. He wouldn't have came if I didn't invite him etc.

With LTR's it's different. It's more 50/50.

Lice138 · 2017-01-04T20:24:28+00:00

Yeah, if im asking someone out, i am paying.

DO NOT confuse it with using "let me buy you a drink" as a pickup line.

akatsukirp · 2017-01-04T23:18:44+00:00

To me the point is that they don't feel obligated (A), that you aren't setting up an implicit contract(B) or just being used(C).

A) he's just trying to buy my pussy (bleh)
B) if he pays for shit I'm responsible for giving him pussy (bleh)
C) I'm just going to see how much free shit I can get out of him (bleh, no respect)

I recently had a girl on Tinder who is 200 miles away (I had been in her town last weekend) ask me to buy her pizza over the phone since she was "sunday fundaying so hard". I laughed out loud at a coffee shop. Haha yea right.

I go dutch on everything, and if I ended up paying for something, they pay next. If you can pull off paying for shit and not have A,B and C happen, good for you.

BestSC86 · 2017-01-04T18:11:25+00:00

The situation is dependent upon the circumstances...

I don't buy girls drinks in bars\clubs unless we have been interacting for over an hour or more....often I will buy something late in the evening as a prelude to the pull.

On paying for dates, I do not pay all if it is just a meetup to get to know her but if it is something which I want to do and have invited her along with me, then I do usually pay most....ie, if I really want to try a new restaurant to which I invite a particular girl then I will pay because I want to go to that place first and she is secondary to the outing.

Strangely, this second seems to be working in a way that I didn't anticipate as two girls I am currently see both insist on the next date this weekend they are going to pay in full????

I don't know what to make of that as many other posters seem to around a lot of girls looking just for free meals and outings?

desno · 2017-01-04T18:48:12+00:00

Don't pay for them. Or only pay after you know you're getting pussy (even then I don't pay one time and she pays the next)

TimeIsDollars · 2017-01-05T00:41:53+00:00

LTR? 50/50

Plates? Depends on where we stand.

I've had plates who would never pay for anything, so I'd minimize the time between social interaction and sex.

I've also had the pleasure of plates who would have a decent chunk of their own money, so we'd get each other drinks, food, etc. In reality, we both treated it as an uncommitted LTR when it came to paying for things.

kenpachitz · 2017-01-04T16:24:08+00:00

From searching around, the consensus is split between:

Always going 50/50
Paying full bill AFTER sex

bigtuna45 · 2017-01-04T15:29:16+00:00

People say never buy them anything. I've bought drinks for my last two lays. Depends on the situation.

boscoist · 2017-01-04T20:17:13+00:00

If an issie is made of it, by you acting chivalrous or her asking about spliting, then it can be a shit test. I usually just grab it and take care of it with no discussion. It hasn't presented an issue thus far.

nabosch · 2017-01-04T17:23:33+00:00

There's nothing wrong with offering to buy a girl a drink right off the bat. I usually just buy that one and then say "You've got the next round" or just don't buy another one. I have bad luck saying "I don't buy drinks"

zboo1h · 2017-01-04T17:14:54+00:00

I used to do the chivalrous thing and grab that book to pay. You can imagine how much pussy I didn't get.

I was even terrified back then to even suggest splitting it. Now I'm up front about it.

I had a bitch recently tell me she's "not the type to sleep with someone (like we'd be sleeping at all) immediately, she has to trust me." So I told her I'm not the type of guy to pay for some bitch immediately, I have to trust her. That shit was super effective, women love assertive men.

Sometimes you get these assertive dickladies though and they insist on paying for everything, almost like they're afraid I'm going to think they owe me pussy. Whatever, I like free whiskey.

Title	How does TRP community handle paying for drinks, dinner, or really paying for anything in regards to dating/spinning plates?
Author	bennerj
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Date	January 4, 2017 3:27 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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