Am I the only one?

DonMelbourne · 2020-05-19T08:14:08+00:00

I'm definitely the same. I don't miss sex at all, but I do miss intimacy.

How do I cope? When I was 20, I was attracted to 20 year old women. When I was 30, I was attracted to 20 year old women. Now I'm a 60 year old man, and I'm attracted to 20 year old women.

I'm not attracted to 60 year old women. I don't want intimacy (much less sex) from that age group. Similarly with 50 year old women. They do start getting more attractive to me around the 40 year old mark. I could probably 'get' a 40 year old woman, or even younger. But realistically, the amount of work involved wouldn't be worth it so I don't try.

So how do I cope? I have some good memories from my earlier days, so I live on those. My tip: make good memories while you are young!

countinginsolitude · 2020-05-19T10:26:40+00:00

Good topic. I am 30 and have been MGTOW for 3 years. I've hooked up with some women over the 3 years, but each one of them has reminded me why I went MGTOW. Honestly....since swallowing the red pill I can't go back to how I was before. I was hurt badly and every time I dated a new woman after, it was the same old shit. Shit-tests 24/7, they wanted my money/resources etc. It was fucking tiresome.

I'd love a long-term relationship with a "hot" girl who was loyal to me, but it's a fucking fairy-tale. Fairytales don't exist boys. It's a shame but that's the truth of it.

Impossible-asset · 2020-05-19T16:07:43+00:00

I get a high class escort for a couple hours and i tell her exactly what i want. And she provides it. Usually called the "girlfirend experience" (GFE). Its more intimate than just wham bam thank you ma'am.

If its companionship you want, get a dog. If its sex you want, get a happy ending massage. If its intimacy you want, get a hogh class escort. Or...just go on vacation to a country overseas on vacation and you'll be surrounded by great women who will meet any need you have. And then you can come back home and continue enjoying life.

Thats usually what i do.

But its not "coping" its "ideal".

All the benefits, none of the bullshit or risks.

celticguy1555 · 2020-05-19T21:11:21+00:00

Very well said. I miss intimacy but not sex. Being 52 the urge is much lessened. Being single allows me to engage in hobbies, do as I  please. In my life either 1. All women are nasty and not worth it or 2. I am incapable of finding a good woman. As I don't demonize women it is probably #2. The only logical action is to go MGTOW. It is not easy but you focus on improving yourself. I focus on my spirituality as well. It is not an easy path.  I wish I had wise words for you as the intimacy with a woman is hard to ignore. For me, intimacy will lead to a eventual relationship and its just not worth it anymore. Too much of a minefield. I wish you bbn luck in your journey. It seems like like you are introspective which will always serve you well. I will say I'm general, as and I should not generalize, women are problematic. False rape accusations, the mind games, worse is way sexist courts treat women. I have been MGTOW FOR several years. The anger phase is very hard but bbn it does bbn pass. Again, great start for a discussion.

IBudgetForIt · 2020-05-19T21:42:36+00:00

Of course I feel it. That's why I still see women to get "the feeling of someone holding onto you, rubbing your back, playing with your hair etc." I'm able to get all of that from professional cuddlers twice a week, plus some emotional connection, for a very reasonable price.

principledbeast1 · 2020-05-19T17:39:23+00:00

Back when I was full on Monk mode I was so starved for human touch I decided to regularly get a massage. Frankly this was never a sexual thing but unfortunately people do need human touch and it was nice to have that even if it was in a sterile and professional way. Also since my ex wife could never be bothered to rub my shoulders for more than 10 seconds it was nice to have someone actually get at my knots.

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sunwalker108 · 2020-05-20T23:52:37+00:00

There’s also strip clubs. Really think the main goal would be to be strong enough mentally to archive those feelings and recognize them as a waste

capt-yossarius · 2020-05-22T18:01:17+00:00

Treat intimacy the same way you treat sex: do it casually.

If you look, you probably can find a woman to be a "cuddle buddy." Just make it clear from the beginning that is all it is. It isn't, and never will be about sex. It isn't, and never will be a romantic relationship. And make that clear many times. If you just say it once, some women might just assume that is Game talking.

The moment there is any pressure applied for you to perform or behave a particular way, bounce.

dyingfocus · 2020-05-24T08:03:38+00:00

Title	Am I the only one?
Author	chrisdidwht
Upvotes	1
Comments	27
Date	May 19, 2020 7:37 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW2
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