There are some men on MGTOW like myself who used to be forever alone and went MGTOW as a way to find self-respect and try to stay positive. I think MGTOW can work but it requires you to understand your childhood and figure out why you ended up like this in the first place before healing yourself. Don't let anyone else tell you you're not a true MGTOW because you've never been in a relationship. It's more important to apply the philosophy.

Forever alone is different from incels. The difference is that forever alone men feel sad about their situation and incels feel angry about their situation. Forever alone men are not considered MGTOW because MGTOW are happy to be single.

Forever alone men usually feel shame from being single for their entire lives and believe other people are judging them for being kissless and sexless. They are humiliated for having never been in a relationship and often get asked "What is wrong with you?" They believe that getting into a romantic relationship would allow them to satisfy their need for unconditional love and earn social validation from their peers. It is supposed to be the perfect solution to all their misery. The only problem is they can never get a girlfriend which feeds into a vicious cycle of wanting a relationship.

Forever alone men want to be provided for, soothed, emotionally cuddled and accepted. The forever alone mindset usually happens for these reasons:

1. Emotional neglect causes a lot of forever alone men to always crave unconditional love from any potential partner they meet which is an unrealistic expectation even in the blue pill world. Unconditional love has to be met in childhood by the parents in order for the child to feel secure and loved.

2. Bullying from peers can destroy a child's self-esteem. If combined with emotional neglect and abuse from parents the child never develops any sense of internal validation because their needs for external validation were never met and they will always crave it.

3. Emotional invalidation from parents and peers prevents the child from developing a sense of trust in others. A lot of forever alone men are used to gaslighting and any advice to them feels like an attack because they spent their entire lives defending themselves.

4. Childhood behavior patterns repeat in adulthood. If a child was emotionally abused by his parents he will be attracted to emotionally abusive people in adulthood because he was conditioned to believe abuse is love. His parents would have told him that no one else will love him and he can only be loved by his abusers.

Telling a forever alone man to learn red pill and get into a relationship will not work just like telling a person who is bad at math to study hard and get an engineering degree. They tried the advice before and failed repeatedly which reinforced the idea that the "normies" are giving fake advice and viewing them as subhuman.

Forever alone men are always defensive because it was the only way they could survive in this world. They often feel personally attacked by "normies" because the advice that people give like "take showers" or "be confident" reminds them of someone in their past who was emotionally abusive that said the same thing and humiliated them.

This is why they only gather with other forever alone men to form a pity party because it's the only way to feel acceptance and love. It's the only place where they can talk about their emotions and get validated and comforted. Their emotional needs are met by having a pity party which is why they will never escape.

The only way I was able to get out of this mindset was to read about psychology and find people on MGTOW who were content with their lives. I wanted to know why I ended up like this. None of the advice worked because no one who has been in a relationship faced my situation. I had to study my childhood like it was a subject and be honest with myself.

This is how you escape the forever alone mindset.

1. Love yourself. Even if your parents emotionally neglected you, you shouldn't neglect yourself. Don't tolerate abuse from toxic people.

2. Build your self-esteem through saving money and working on hobbies. MGTOW will help you retire early and give you freedom to do what you want.

3. Develop a sense of internal validation. Every time you make progress you should validate yourself and learn not to seek validation from others. It makes it easier to remove toxic people from your life if they have no control over your validation.

4. Forgive yourself. You can't change the past but you can change your perception of the past through stoicism.

The process seems simple but it's extremely hard for a forever alone man because they have been conditioned for decades to do the opposite. Rewiring the brain is possible but it takes time to overwrite the garbage from old memories and conditioning. If bad habits like smoking and drinking take a long time to fix it's not like fixing psychological issues is any different.

You can't save a forever alone man by telling him "hold frame" and DGAF because he will not trust you. He tried it and the advice didn't work. His trust has been betrayed over his entire life and he has given up on human connection. The only people he trusts are other men who are also forever alone. I know some people are going to say I'm coping and not really MGTOW but I have applied the philosophy and tried to find inner peace.