My wife of ten years wants a divorce due to not feeling a romantic connection or feeling in love with me anymore. We also have three kids together. I can admit that I haven’t been the most affectionate husband.

She told me that she’s willing to put the bare minimum into trying to connect. She is not willing to do counseling. My hope is that if I give my all while being the best version of myself she will come around to give more effort.

She admitted that if things do improve she will give more effort and give more time to sticking around to see if things work between us.

Currently, we spend at least an hour a day alone. We cuddle on occasion. We don’t kiss or say I love you yet.

Kind of wondering if any ideas of what I can do to connect better with my wife. Or any way to get the process rolling a little quicker. Not sure how much time she’s willing to give.