Hi guys, I’m new here. Been separated about a year. 2 kids, 10 and 7. Everything was going fine with The separation, the ex and I were getting along fine and sharing custody of the kids and everything. Problem spring up a couple weeks ago. I found out that she had stayed home sick because she was really upset about something her boyfriend (they’ve been together about a month now). She wouldn’t tell me what was going on, so I just typed his name into a google search and discovered that he had been arrested and spent the night in jail. The charges were child endangerment (his child, not mine). He has a hearing for this the end of the month. When I talked to her about this, I told her I didn’t want him near our children. She freaked out saying that I was trying to control who she dates. She then told me that he had met the boys a few times, despite us agreeing that any new relationships would be kept away from the kids for at least 6 months to protect them.

I’m very concerned about this. She’s convinced that his ex is just trying to set him up to prevent him from getting custody of their child. I’m convinced he’s downplaying it to her to keep her around. Is there anything I can do to protect my kids?