I feel as if I am falling out of being a RPW...

offbeatheartbeat · 2013-07-11T22:25:25+00:00

If you're thinking things like "I'm not your mother", are you sure your boyfriend is so alpha? Seems like a red flag. There was a comment somewhere here recently about how your relationship with your SO is pretty much going to end up being mother/son or father/daughter...and you don't want the former...

margerym · 2013-07-11T22:39:33+00:00

Whoever told you that TRP was about putting women back in the home and was the same as throwback 1950 traditionalism didn't know what they were talking about.

Everything you have vented about here has nothing to do with TRP. I would hazard a guess and say that most of the women here work outside of the home. And I know from speaking with some that they have friends that don't agree with TRP.

My question for you is why are you secluding yourself? Because that's what the real issue is here. TRP doesn't demand that of women, but you are choosing it. Why?

I have been staying home with the kiddos for a number of years now. Some days I am ready to run for the hills because it is so incredibly difficult. I am assuming you don't have kids? I can't imagine staying home without them. There would be so little to do after a while. Even a part time job or volunteer work could be beneficial here.

The idea that everything should be smooth sailing 100% of the time, that there are no bumps in the road is a false one. Were there really never times in your life where you thought "work is draining my life, I want to break free."? It happens with everything.

I took up regular, "womanly" hobbies

I'm not even sure what this means especially not in a "Red Pill required" context. Knitting? Cross-Stitch? Gossiping? Since when are womanly hobbies a requirement for being a RPW?

I think what this all comes down to is that you are putting unneeded restrictions and what not on yourself.

MysteriousPandi · 2013-07-11T22:13:16+00:00

Part of the problem is that our current car/huge house/suburb culture puts great physical distance between people. In countries like Italy you can walk down the street, see people you know and really feel like a part of the community. In america you walk down the street in the suburbs and don't see anyone. Everyone is inside in the air conditioning glued to the TV. People were not meant to be isolated!

FleetingWish · 2013-07-12T00:00:05+00:00

Actually one thought that I want to mention is not all Red Pill Women are stay out home type. I'm a working professional. People see us say "traditional gender roles" and assumes that means that the man works, and the women stays at home. No all it means is that the man leads, and is masculine. The women follows and is feminine. Being a professional and a red pill woman means that my job will always come second to him.

sugarcrush · 2013-07-11T22:25:19+00:00

You can be red pill and not have a classically traditional relationship where he works and you stay home full time. Not everyone is cut out to stay home full time, especially since it sounds like you don't have children. There's only so much cooking and cleaning that can be done for 2 adults!

How does your boyfriend feel about the whole arrangement? Does he find you boring or feel smothered now that you are home all the time?

My recommendations would be:

Find couple friends so you can continue having relationships with men and women. I agree that it is generally a bad idea for men and women to be hanging out alone frequently, but having friends in relationships too is a safe way for everyone to see each other.
Take up your old hobbies or find new ones you enjoy. Dont sit around sewing all day because you feel you are supposed to. This is especially important if you want to continue staying home.
Consider going back to work at least on a part time basis or volunteering. Like I said, not everyone is happy staying home. I would talk with your boyfriend about what he thinks your relationships needs ate and go over the finances and see if you can go back to work if that is what you want. He might prefer having a happy girlfriend than a sparkling clean house every day.

To me the basis of a red pill relationship is one where the man is the captain and his wife is the first officer, not necessarily one that mirrors a 1950s household. Tell your captain what you want and do what works for YOUR relationship, not what you think you "should" do but doesn't work.

nicethingyoucanthave · 2013-07-12T19:14:18+00:00

Here's what The Red Pill means: it means accepting that men and women are different.

The reason it's a "pill" and the meaning of that reference to The Matrix is that this view, that men and women are different, is actually kind of controversial.

The implications of The Red Pill for women are simply that you should not necessarily expect to split everything 50/50 right down the middle in a relationship. Rather, you're going to be more like yin and yang. Different, and with your own strengths and weaknesses.

It does not mean that you have to be a stay at home wife. In fact, I honestly suspect that you're a troll for having said that.

It also doesn't mean that you have to like or do any particular things. You don't have to "take up regular, 'womanly' hobbies." You have your own unique personality, and even though you're a woman, you might be interested in anything considered "manly" and that would be perfectly okay.

The point of The Red Pill is that men and women are, in the aggregate, different - not that you have to be like every other women.

Here's an analogy: Imagine that you've been told your entire life that men and women are the same height, on average. You keep meeting men who are taller than you, but society dismissed that with a wave of the hand - "don't stereotype" they say. "Not all men are tall."

The Red Pill in that world would be accepting the men are taller than women. But that doesn't imply that there aren't really tall women or really short men - and it would be saying that tall women or short men are bad or of less value.

Keep these two concepts separate in your mind: there are generalities which are useful in understanding populations. People are individuals and shouldn't be stereotyped.

Understand?

2013-07-11T22:11:32+00:00

how are you expecting him to show "he appreciates it" is the first thing id ask

2013-07-12T14:45:18+00:00

Things to keep busy:

Volunteer
Part time job
Full time job
Go work out (fem-gym rats are kinda red pill)
Join clubs (karate is awesome)

Blue pillers have their place in life. They set the example of what not to do. But, like every other fringe nutjob group (religious, political, environmentalists, etc) you are capable of finding common ground to relate to them on because you can't change them and they sure as shit aren't going away.

margerym · 2013-07-11T21:59:16+00:00

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Title	I feel as if I am falling out of being a RPW...
Author	flyingballausages
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Date	July 11, 2013 9:25 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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