RPW: What is your love/dating life like, and are you happy?

un-coolmom · 2013-08-19T00:41:37+00:00

I also had no social life at your age, I was a line cook who dabbled in pastry. Just so happened I met my husband at the restaurant, he was impressed with my cassata. Meeting people is hit or miss. Stay out of the clubs, girls I know who were hitting the clubs back then are all miserable now.

FleetingWish · 2013-08-23T18:15:44+00:00

Sorry, for the late reply, I saw this thread thinking that I would come back to it, and then I forgot. I'm in a wonderful loving relationship with an extremely alpha man. We've been in a relationship for 1.5 years, my longest relationship. I'm very happy, it's funny because when you date an alpha you enter this realm of "happiness" that you never knew existed. What TRP says about women not knowing what they want is entirely true, I never knew how happy this type of relationship would make me until I had it. I'm happier and more confident than I've ever been in my life all thanks to him.

sugarcrush · 2013-08-18T21:30:53+00:00

Well, your good years are flying by, but if you don't care then that's that. I would like to remind you that dating takes time. Just because you decide you want to be married at 28 doesn't mean you will find someone within a year. I would factor in at least 5 to find someone compatible, have a serious relationship, and get married.

I am happily married. I had 2 silly high school relationships and one other serious before I met my husband.

margerym · 2013-08-18T21:10:51+00:00

only nature is really pressuring you. if other people are, who cares.

you will NEVER be as attractive or capable of attracting the most worthy mate as you are when youre young and thats just a fact. that doesnt mean youll die alone or never get anyone, but you have short, prime years that never come back in which to attract the best possible mate. no amount of railing against the dying of th elight will change ths. if you dotn care and dont feel you are missing anything than you probably arent...but if you change your mind at 38 youll have a rough time of it is all

AnasRexGottfried · 2013-08-18T21:45:09+00:00

I feel happy and would just like to stay single and celibate until I am ready to get married and then get married after a couple years

Fair enough... but recognize that these wants (marriage and a long, casual single life) may not be compatible. Youth and beauty are fleeting, and are highly prized in women in our culture-- I'm not saying it's right, but it's the way it is.

I'm in my late 20s, in an LTR. I'm really happy with my partner-- we are an excellent fit in terms of interests and values. We're both pretty indifferent about legal marriage, though will probably end up married if we're fortunate enough to have kids (legal protections, medical/dental benefits, etc). When we started dating, I told him that children were in my five year plan for coupled-me, and that if that was too short a timeline, that he could walk away and we could be friends with no hard feelings-- didn't put him off. Yay!

I had an LTR awhile back that went really sour, and after that I found myself sort of indifferent about having a partner. I have hobbies, friends and interests enough that I could live a happy and full life without a romantic partner, if a suitable one didn't turn up. That being said I also didn't have stupid requirements for a man like "over 6 feet tall, visible sixpack, six-figure income, advanced education, buys me everything I want, snappy dresser", either.

Fortunately for me, I met and managed to attract the right dude! Yay! I am not unrealistic about just how incredibly lucky I am to have him. I try to provide everything he desires (within reason, obviously) and treat him with love and respect a) cause I want to keep him and b) cause he deserves it.

thenewbiehomemaker · 2013-08-19T02:52:19+00:00

I'm 26 years old, I got married at 20 and we have two children.

We are very happy now. We didn't have a bad marriage, but we were both starting to get frustrated a year or two ago. I was in social work, and the hours were just too demanding for somebody in a LTR.

I quit this year to be a housewife, and I don't think we expected the vast improvement that happened. We were talking about it last night, and we feel like newlyweds again. I'm so much more relaxed now that I can actually give my husband and kids my undivided attention.

margerym · 2013-08-19T12:40:03+00:00

Met my husband in high school at 17, kid and marriage at 18, been married 10 years, have a ton of kids, happy as can be.

kekerae · 2013-08-19T21:59:36+00:00

I'm 24 and I met my husband (married for a few months) when I was 20 and he was 27. I met my husband online through E-Harmony. I thought I'd give it a try, I filled out my profile thoroughly and made it clear that I'd indicated I was looking for a relationship that would lead to marriage and children. I used nice photos, one right after a haircut and one photo of me doing ballet. I talked about my interests: cooking, being active, camping, spending time with family, etc. Before that I had one long-term relationship with a high-school boyfriend.

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inkedpink · 2013-08-19T01:07:50+00:00

If you want to get married in the future, then it's in your interest to date now. You need to know what kinda man you're looking for and you may need to strike out a few times before you find that guy you wanna marry.

That can take years. Or not. Your call.

AnasRexGottfried · 2013-08-19T20:36:41+00:00

Very very foolish. You aren't going to just up and meet a man out of the blue when you're ready to get married, and the longer you wait, the older you get, the less chances you are going to meet the right man. Date older men with the idea that you are looking for marriage now, because chances are it's going to take 2-3 or even more before you find the right one and that takes years of your youth. Good Luck.

Title	RPW: What is your love/dating life like, and are you happy?
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Date	August 18, 2013 8:14 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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