How to deal with yourself after Red Pill

2014-05-19T17:31:04+00:00

Glad am not the only one. I used to looooove (eat, sleep and drink) telenovelas but now I can't stand that white knight oneitis bullshit. I just stopped watching them completely.

2014-05-19T19:00:39+00:00

You are very young, and you need to find some positive outlets for your frustration. Get active with things that interest you (sports, art, theater, dance, cooking, hiking etc).

You have to understand that only you are responsible for your happiness. Life is what you make of it, and if you're miserable, then you have only yourself to blame. Don't sit back and complain, it's a useless waste of energy. Get up and make changes, find something you're passionate about, throw yourself into something you believe in.

Everyone thinks they have it all figured out when they're your age, and there's so much left to learn and discover. You are alienated because you have decided to alienate yourself. There's a lot of good in the world as well, so stop being so dramatic, put forth some effort, and carve out a happier life for yourself. You're too young to think you have all the answers (or even most of them). Improve your attitude and your outlook, branch out, and get busy.

TRP/RPW and laziness do not go well together. Complain less and do more.

box_cutter_ · 2014-05-19T18:05:07+00:00

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Mrswhiskers · 2014-05-19T17:04:06+00:00

Yes this is common. hang out with us. Come check out the irc channel

LadyLumen · 2014-05-19T22:28:51+00:00

I'm a purple pill woman, but I identify with about 75% of the stuff here. Some of it makes me feel bad about myself or my partner, but I understand that people aren't perfect.

We both just try to be the best people we can.

The typical media was ruined for me long before I even really understood what Feminism was, but now I really see the entitlement in full - it's just really uncomfortable.

My way of dealing with TRP is not swallowing it completely. I recognize that we live in a society where women are entitled way beyond belief, but I still try to see the good in the women around me (the media has a distorted view) as well as recognizing that it is okay for my boyfriend to have Beta traits and not be some super Alpha stud. If all us ladies only dated Alphas, only 20% of us would have boyfriends, lol.

beginnerbuttocks · 2014-05-19T17:08:43+00:00

Uh-huh!

That's how it's supposed to start for many of us young girls honey. I started by ending up on some PUA sites as a feminist and I was disgusted. By what the men were saying but more so by what I thought of myself when I finally absorbed the reality of the situation.

It hurts because you're used to a feminist world telling women what they want to hear. But now you have the what I like to think as the rules. The real rules, not the "create your own rules" of feminism that go against reality.

So now you can decide what you want and RP can tell you how to get it. It's not easy or fun but its worth it!

drop_commentator · 2014-05-19T17:16:58+00:00

Try focusing on improving yourself and your immediate environment. At 17 there may not be a lot you can do other than working internally. However, focusing on things to improve about yourself will help give you purpose and improve your self-esteem.

2014-05-19T17:21:43+00:00

There are two ways to come by these realizations. The first way is through the hardship of experience, in which after great loss, one becomes aware of the shitty natures that all of us possess. The second way is a more gradual one by reading and understanding from the desolation of others.

By far, the second way is better and it is where you are. It is better because when one has faced dramatic loss, it leaves scars. Ones that are deep and very difficult to overcome. Better to learn from others and at the same time internalize it for yourself.

Yet, the end result of both scenarios is a kind of hopeless revulsion and experiential crisis.

What you have to understand is that this rift you see is false. You are just as shitty, pitiful, and stupid as every other human out there. And at the same time, you possess the capacity for extraordinary greatness when you direct the course of your life and your existence, and understand the source and nature of your power.

This rift decreases when you understand that you are as human as everyone else. Connected and in this historical place in which you find yourself.

The horribleness of the world, then, becomes irrelevant. Hatred becomes irrelevant. Deception becomes something to shrug at and be amused by. War becomes a consequences of our condition. What becomes relevant is that you wake up with a choice, the choice to do something today that has meaning for you, in which you might live out and grow to achieve what you want. That choice is ever-present and the consequences are very real. The rest is mostly noise.

Good community here if you want to hang out and not feel so practically alone.

2014-05-25T12:14:27+00:00

marry me, then again i don't even now you and we probably live 200000 miles away.

you're self aware, that makes you better than most women and people in general.

i'll tell you this, life is too short to waste on feeling bad about everything. i also have my days where i'm like fuck the world for being such a nasty mudball, but i've decided to enjoy myself. i enjoy my time with people i like, and i enjoy doing things i like to do. that's really the only purpose life has, do whatever the fuck you wanna do. if morality and justice are things you value, then live your life by those principles and hold your head high knowing that you can adhere to your own high standards.

la_sabotage · 2014-05-22T16:09:46+00:00

My life has only been 17 years long, but I believe the world is a terrible place; full of hatred, deception and war, and after imposing TRP on my life, I am alienated.

You just need to find the right man, and everything will be fine, trust me on this.

KyfhoMyoba · 2014-05-20T17:43:41+00:00

Keep reading TRP, you won't be socialist long! (Feminism is a Marxist construction, out of the Frankfort School.)

boydeer · 2014-05-19T19:23:42+00:00

well, things are kind of going to suck until you're done with college. you can find some decent dudes at school, but most of them will either be shamed into beta behavior (and not snap out of it until at least their mid-20s) or will have adjusted their behavior to capitalize on the whore parade.

I have no niche, not on reddit or in real life.

most worthwhile people don't. you are awake to things. the gnostics believe that higher consciousness is "a spark of the alien divine", and so any level of higher consciousness brings with it a sense of alienation. it's a burden you bear if you want to try to see things as they are.

My life has only been 17 years long, but I believe the world is a terrible place; full of hatred, deception and war, and after imposing TRP on my life, I am alienated.

the world is what it is. your consciousness is your reality. don't let others pollute your consciousness. again, after college, this will be easier to exercise control over.

self-hatred is a bummer. i don't know how to fix it.

CopperRaccoon · 2014-05-19T21:29:02+00:00

Welcome to reality, but I promise it's not really that dark if you know how to look at it. There's still good in the world.

That being said, move on from your frustrations as soon as you can or utilize them for your self-betterment. Once you become better, the world will seem a little brighter. I know you're trying to sound all tough and intelligent (I noticed this with all of the vocabulary), but just let go of that. Being a tough girl won't help you out much like you think it might.

Invest your time in some hobbies. Find some friends that you can get along with and talk about things with (not always TRP and certainly not dark things). A little light conversation with some friends will really help boost your mood, especially if they're the right kind of friends that will be happy for you doing better with yourself.

Also, yeah, avoid TV. You can watch occasionally, but there's not much of value there, and there are other things to do for entertainment that are more productive.

box_cutter_ · 2014-05-20T02:13:28+00:00

We all feel a bit alienated, love. (Especially at 17) I can't stand being around my feminist friends anymore and I hate myself for it. You'll go off to college and find like-minded friends, if you ditch the pessimistic attitude. Work the system. While tons of girls are giving it away for free, maintain your value. Even if you do end up falling for a "beta" guy, be the woman who makes him feel like a man and he will act like one.

TempestTcup · 2014-05-19T17:21:34+00:00

You are just in the anger stage of grieving your eye opening experience. This will pass and eventually you will just accept it, internalize it, and move on with your life!

And TV will rot your brain; best to do something constructive with your time :)

eatplaycrush · 2014-05-19T22:29:45+00:00

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Title	How to deal with yourself after Red Pill
Author	CopperRaccoon
Upvotes	13
Comments	50
Date	May 19, 2014 4:50 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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