I turned 24 last week and I don't know what to do with my life

throwawayrpw · 2015-11-17T18:20:34+00:00

Ok. So I'm sure there are many wonderful qualities about you, but let's focus on your attitude for a hot minute.

I'm starting to feel old.

while I was definitely a party girl (and still am to a degree)

I'm not in the best shape

I think my standards might be too high but I don't really want to lower them.

Ok. So you're getting older, still party, and aren't in the best shape, you don't want to lower your standards, and then:

I'm surrounded by high SMV men due to my profession and my city but many of them are just not up to snuff for me.

Gently: you sound like a bit of a brat. And I do mean just "a bit" and not "a total lost cause". I don't know these men personally (and neither do you) but considering we are talking about an entire city of young professionals....it's very hard to believe none of them are "up to snuff" for a past/kind of present party girl who isn't in the best shape and is getting older while all this is happening.

You don't have to lower your standards for men. You don't. But if you don't, you do have to raise your standards for yourself. Those are your only options. Pick one.

Either keep the discriminating attitude, but drop the partying and pick up the weights. Or lose the entitlement, lower your standards a bit (I'm sure you could still get a fine gentleman, he just may not be "up to snuff" with your current standards) and keep on doing what you're doing.

You have a lot of options and are in a really good place to have a bright and happy future, so don't get down on yourself. But also stop looking down at the whole city of men you live in when, considering your academic institution, I'm sure in 5 years most of them will be off like rockets with their professional and personal prospects while you watch them from the ground.

TempestTcup · 2015-11-17T20:36:58+00:00

Going through all of the replies, it sounds to me like you are used to getting everything you want out of life, and you don't see why it shouldn't be the same way for getting a top man. You want one, so you get one, because that is how everything has gone your entire life.

The only problem with this scenario is that men are human with their own wants and needs and preferences. Sure, you could have your family go buy you a man like they bought your clothes, education, etc., but you probably don't want a bought man.

The only other way to get a top man is to earn one by being a top woman. The problem is that the things you value about yourself are not usually the things that men with options value. They are not sexually attracted to your pedigree, your ivy league school, your law degree, your job. Are those things a bonus? Sure, they don't hurt, but no man is going to look at your diploma and get a boner.

cxj · 2015-11-18T05:21:22+00:00

I'm from a wealthy family and have a 'pedigree' or sorts, I think my SMV is pretty high.

None of that shit affects female SMV

female SMV = looks + what you are willing to do in the bedroom - how much of a bitch you are.

EnzTDI91 · 2015-11-17T20:37:50+00:00

When reading this. The first thing that came to my mind was a real ingrained sense of entitlement and subsequently a lack of modesty.

If you judge others harshly, do you not expect them to judge you the same way? These men you meet aren't up to snuff....what makes you up to snuff?

If you want a man that wants to be with you because you have a good paying job, come from a wealthy family and are still a party girl......jeezus be my guest.

You have stated very little that actually makes you LTR material.

Camille11325 · 2015-11-17T17:52:27+00:00

I think my SMV is pretty high

If you have to work on your figure then you aren't 7+ so make diet and exercise your top priority. It's good that you put effort into hair and clothing but they can only do so much. Do you wear makeup?

I feel like I'm not meeting the type of men I want to meet

What steps are you taking to meet men right now?

I think my standards might be too high but I don't really want to lower them

What are your standards?

I'm surrounded by high SMV men due to my profession and my city but many of them are just not up to snuff for me

What do you mean by this?

Your answers to the above questions will help us give you advice but don't worry you definitely aren't doomed to be single for the rest of your life :)

SAHNM · 2015-11-17T18:09:05+00:00

I was definitely a party girl (and still am to a degree)

depending on what you mean by "and still am to a degree", you might want to not do whatever it is that makes you say that.

shinesunshine · 2015-11-17T19:15:00+00:00

Many good points have been raised already but I will say that no man wants a wife who will stay at home and 'do philanthropy' which to me sounds like spending his hard earned money.

Being a SAHM/housewife will require hard graft and you want to show a man you are willing to do that, to spend time on your knees cleaning, not just arranging flowers and looking pretty. I worry you may be looking for a life of leisure, not a life of hard work to maintain a household and happy children. Really think about what a housewife is and does, it's a vocation I think and I love it and relish the hard work :)

I will say, to your credit, you are obviously more than capable of hard work and a wife with a degree from an Ivy League school will be a credit and I would say will be great to have as a date/bring to office events. You seem very sensible and I hope you find a husband to be soon.

Namshubophile · 2015-11-17T18:13:07+00:00

I'm surrounded by high SMV men due to my profession and my city but many of them are just not up to snuff for me.

What are the things that are giving you the "not up to snuff" feeling? Once we identify what these things are, we can think about where you can meet men with the qualities you've not been able to find just yet.

[deleted] · 2015-11-19T08:54:57+00:00

"Fun guys" don't make for great relationship material. They make for great guys who will pump and dump you after partying.

Filter better and stop feeling so entitled. Lower your standards for looks and having fun because those guys aren't probably going to want to LTR or marry you or most women right now. Men don't owe you anything.

DivaDepression · 2015-11-26T14:28:06+00:00

First of all, you really should take advantage of the fact that you're extrovert to build up connection which will help you secure a Job. That's how I got my job in Europe. You said you are attractive therefore you should be able to find a guy that meets your standards &expectations Keep yourself slim, healthy and beautiful they love it.

Title	I turned 24 last week and I don't know what to do with my life
Author	throwawayrpw
Upvotes	5
Comments	61
Date	November 17, 2015 5:31 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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