How can I become a relaxed,feminine and vulnerable woman?

ragnarockette · 2017-01-09T22:10:04+00:00

I think many women on here recommend the books The Surrendered Wife and The Surrendered Single as a good place to start.

Some things that help me feel feminine:

pampering myself with manicures, pedicures, and facials
wearing a nice outfit (it's quite cold, but I try to still look feminine in jeans by wearing pretty sweaters and nice jewelry)
doing your hair and makeup
prepping all my stuff the night before so I look sleek and put together instead of like a harried bag lady

I find the following actions are very feminine and very easy to implement without much training:

say "please" and "thank you" more
stop swearing
giving genuine compliments
getting excited about small things
cooking for people (if not an SO, why not have your friends over for a home-cooked meal?)

The anxiety/when will he commit thing is tricky because it's hard to practice until you're with a guy you really like. Tips that helped me when I was single:

talk less about the men I'm dating with my girlfriends. Girltalk can lead to overanalyzation
don't save his number and delete texts after each date. This allows him to re-initiate contact each time.
plan lots of other fun things to distract yourself

[deleted] · 2017-01-10T00:02:49+00:00

From the mens' forums and youtube channels that I've lurked on, the most lacking, and desirable feminine trait in the modern world seems to be empathy. I think a major flaw in most female empowerment programs is this narcissistic focus on feeling beautiful and confident, even without merit. If you look at traditional, positive feminine archetypes, they almost always have a nurturing side. For example, Disney princesses like Cinderella and Snow White took care of animals and dwarves.

Try connecting with your family, volunteering your time once in a while, or start a garden. The most feminine girls in my social group keep track of everyone's birthdays and bakes a special treat for them.

annonybabe · 2017-01-09T21:48:40+00:00

I found the audio book "Get The Guy" by Matthew Hussey extremely helpful. He has a bunch of youtube material you can look at first if you're interested in getting a feel first.

whatever000012345678 · 2017-01-10T12:56:44+00:00

I'm genuinely curious... why would you want to be vulnerable?

Relaxed and feminine I understand, but "vulnerable" isn't something I'd ever aspire to be.

Title	How can I become a relaxed,feminine and vulnerable woman?
Author	Anna2595
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Date	January 9, 2017 9:19 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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