Is it possible to be a RPW and not want a RP (or any) relationship? Long post, tldr included!

teaandtalk · 2019-01-09T08:37:38+00:00

Fundamentally, the "Red Pill" is a set of theories about how men and women are different from each other. From there, we have discussions and requests for advice.

Most RPW are looking for a relationship, so a lot of the advice here is with that in mind and won't be relevant to you. That doesn't mean that you won't find lots of interesting stuff in terms of connecting with your femininity and being the best version of yourself possible.

girlwithabike · 2019-01-09T12:45:26+00:00

We aren't really here to convince you of what life path to follow. Make your own decisions and own it. I do not understand what you are looking for out of this post. It reads as "I'm not like other women, but I want desperately to belong".

LateralThinker13 · 2019-01-09T18:05:13+00:00

My best friend, who is the complete opposite of the aforementioned, regularly tells me I dress like a teenager boy. In the same vein, there are feminine aspects of myself that I've always enjoyed investing in, such as my skincare, hair care, and hygiene.

So, you're a metrosexual male...

All that being said, I have no interest in being in a relationship.

...who is asexual...

I'm facing an inner conflict because since reading RPW I've been nurturing my feminine qualities, and this has brought me an inner peace, but the fact remains that I'm not interested in dating or relationships, despite RPW being a sexual strategy for women.

...and needs to reread the sidebar. RPW is, and I quote:

RPW does not endorse a moral stance. We discuss the elements of girl game not as behaviors that are right, or good, or morally superior, but as tactical behaviors that work to help us achieve our goals.

Emphasis mine. RPW is geared toward helping you achieve your goals. They are designed to make you a better, happier, more fulfilled woman. Usually this is in the context of dating, marriage, and not buying into Feminist BS, but it isn't explicitly that.

If you want to be a single, childless woman who is RP in her femininity, outlook, and interactions with others, so be it. Just as not wanting kids is still RPW, not wanting a husband is still RP. It's about you embracing femininity and positive female development, not your dating, that makes RPW what it is.

If it's working for you, it's working for you.

I'm not at an age where I'm "too young" to be worried about these things, but I just don't feel an urgency to do so.

All that said, as long as you're well-aware of the perils of The Wall, I think you're in good shape. Just listen to your self and your needs, and don't be surprised if they change. If you're the age you sound like (early 20s), your self-identity will evolve over the next decade and you may find that you do want kids/husband at some point. Don't reject it if being single is your identity now... but also don't feel pressured to date if that isn't in you right now, either.

You do you.

HumanSockPuppet · 2019-01-09T14:09:47+00:00

Here at RPW, when we say "relationship", 99 times out of 100 we mean a romantic relationship; the kind with sex, mutual emotional investment, and all that good stuff.

But that's not the only meaning to the word relationship. It can mean a sustained or repeated interaction with someone. The nice serviceman at the autoshop who always changes your oil. The stockboy who smiles and helps you find items at your grocery store. The uniformed officer who patrols your neighbourhood and keeps you safe.

Any time you have a sustained or repeated interaction with a male, you are participating in a relationship with him. So there is no avoiding having a relationship with a man in some form or another. Men built everything around you, and they keep it all running.

Given that interactions with men are inevitable, your approach to applying RP principles won't be different than any other woman's - only your end goals will be different.

Whisper · 2019-01-09T07:25:36+00:00

Bored_Schoolgirl · 2019-01-09T07:13:16+00:00

I consider myself RP-leaning with some conservative beliefs (grew up in a conservative city so no surprise) but I'm like you, I'm interested in being in a relationship but I don't want to be in one. I just like the idea. You can say I'm in "nun mode" after a breakup but despite my lack of interest in relationships, I don't see RP as a sexual strategy game like some people but I see it as a life style. It's easier to dress and act feminine where I'm from for example, so there's that.

There's no one concrete way of following RP; we have women over here who, although follow some RPW beliefs, have right leanings or outright liberals in real life but have right-leaning beliefs. We're actually a diverse bunch, I think you'll be fine here.

Don't want to date? No problem.

We won't force you to believe what we believe since we come in many colors, shapes and sizes.

MissNietzsche · 2019-01-10T00:52:16+00:00

How old are you exactly?

[deleted] · 2019-01-09T12:27:31+00:00

I'm in the same boat. I use this as a self improvement sub. I'm sure I'll be in a relationship at some point, but I'm not actively searching for one. I am truly happy with my own company. If I ever get married I will be prepared, but if I don't I will still be happy. I have never wanted children either.

RPW will tell you to take what works for you and leave the rest.

banooty · 2019-01-10T03:41:30+00:00

It's possible, and you can fully embrace it. I'm newly red pilled (but a lot of the main points behind the ideology are ones I've personally believed and figured out on my own) but I'm not focused on a relationship. In fact if anything the "official" and "titling" aspects of relationships are somewhat of deterrents for me; I am the kind of person who looks at actions and not words, so what's the point of focusing on a relationship, when you don't need one to show people how you feel about them anyway? That's the short explanation of what I think. So you're not alone, and I think it's a great thing to be different from many other people, so don't worry if you're not the cookie cutter definition of a RPW.

Title	Is it possible to be a RPW and not want a RP (or any) relationship? Long post, tldr included!
Author	lovin44
Upvotes	6
Comments	16
Date	January 9, 2019 6:17 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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