What are your experiences with being silenced online for your MRA views?

AngryBreadRevolution · 2018-07-26T19:09:05+00:00

So, about 2 years ago I joined a forum for survivors of sexual abuse, as I was looking for a group of people to talk about similar issues while also remaining anonymous. I mostly found it positive, though it can be heavy sometimes. The forum's population is mostly women, but men are equally welcomed and the vast majority of members will give equal advice, support and empathy to male survivors. Often the mixed community has been benefitial for everyone. That being said there are seperate locked sub forums exclusive to women and men (though the men's forum is painfully silent).

I did kind of get into an argument with one member of that site though. She had made a post about some 90 year old woman describing men as useless or something, I can't remember exactly, A few women found it empowering while not thinking about how disempowering and invalidating it was to any men who read it. One guy jumped in first talking about how this article hurt him, but he was dismissed, and so I also entered and gave my opinion. I mean, this is a survivor forum for men and women, so I felt it wasn't appropriate to post that article here. The OP again tried dismissing me, we talked, I got accused of mansplaining, I fought back, she quit once she realised she had no argument anymore, but tried acting cool.

After I pointed out how unfair that article was, a few women did validate my conserns and agreed, and I got a really nice private message from a woman who agreed with everything I said, so that was uplifting.

After I leftm people fought with eachother about the sexism, then somehow started fighting about ageism or something and the post and all comments we're subsequently deleted. I think I still have a few screenshots of the page before it was deleted, if anyone's interested.

Mods didn't ban or warn me. Though it's possible they warned the OP. While there are many feminists on that site, it's a survivor forum first and foremost, not a feminist forum. There are lots of women and men there who don't identify with feminism, and there are a number who do but wouldn't dream of ever invalidating or silencing men's issues. There are a few bad eggs, like anywhere I suppose.

Historybuffman · 2018-07-26T18:54:55+00:00

We are not feminists. Female MRAs are not "allies", they are simply MRAs who happen to be female.

Tedesche · 2018-07-26T21:14:36+00:00

I had comments referencing the MRM deleted by a mod who told me “not to promote hate movements” on their sub.

I’ve been banned from multiple feminist subs just for questioning feminist views (and I made sure to be ultra-polite each time).

I’ve gotten downvotes on numerous subs just for identifying as an MRA.

I’ve lost a few friends for speaking up about men’s rights, and it’s pretty clear a few more don’t like me talking about them. I’ve had to keep quiet to preserve relationships.

orotnashsad · 2018-07-26T19:27:52+00:00

I have some very strong minded feminists in my family. Specifically my brothers wife’s family. I have gotten into some pretty outrageous arguments that started by highlighting men’s and boys issues. I never said anything against female issues, I just spoke about men’s issues.

At a family function I was made out to be a sexist pig in front of everyone.

I was literally promoting human health, and said nothing against women’s health. But that’s what you get for being reasonable in a feminist world.

Oh well.

Imnotmrabut · 2018-07-26T20:11:08+00:00

The antics are legion .... From bot reporting of social media accounts to have them blocked to Denial of Service Attacks from certain 'Murican reddens.

Having every link you post submitted to databases if adult content to get it blocked, and having every shortened URL ever generated blocked with Maliscious reports made to service providers...

Funding Wakipedia pages you have edited subjected to retrospective editing so that every link in every citation is made to point to the wrong place, and every archive link is damaged as well.... That is on top of being pursued and wikihounded to have you tried in s star chamber at 5.00 am and pronounced guilty at 5.01 am having been summoned at 4.59 am with no charges laid. Of course you were in bed asleep so nothing fishy there... And you are supposedly banned from Wakipedia for life...and your crime is pissing of Feminut Sysops by having the temerity to cite sources such as encyclopedias that contradict the falsity they demand is real.

The one thing I celebrate is just how the antics on the loonies has articulated just how many high functioning "Sociopaths" are out there and just g how common and permitted their quasi criminal behaviour is permitted by social groups and peers.

ThePigmanAgain · 2018-07-26T23:17:07+00:00

Many of us here have been banned from feminist subs we didn't even visit. I am one such. And a few times i've had comments removed by mods at FB and Reddit. Nothing you can do about that, of course.

Pillowed321 · 2018-07-27T01:39:38+00:00

I've been banned from a lot of subreddits, including some very large ones. Defaults like /r/bestof and /r/news will delete comments that support gender equality. /r/science is known for having feminist moderators who censor discussions on any posts that have to do with gender. I almost got a permaban from /r/femradebates after I said that there are examples of feminists who oppose equality for men (such as NOW or Michael Kimmel), but the mods did overturn the ban when I complained.

Galaxine · 2018-07-27T06:52:40+00:00

I've been banned from subreddits like others have said etc. I tend to be more active offline than online, especially as a student on campus.

I got posts deleted about Terry Crews being thrown under the bus by women.

turbulance4 · 2018-07-28T00:45:23+00:00

Gather around for story time.

Hmm... I don't really talk about my polyamory stuff in this sub much but I'll bring it up here because it matters.

I used to be part of a local area poly Facebook group. That is until one day the admin suggested that nobody who was incel was allowed. I've never really gotten into the whole incel thing, but I know a little about it and thought it an odd statement to make, given the FB group wasn't related. So I said something like "incel means 'involuntary celibate.' are you suggesting that nobody is allowed in your group if they don't enjoy an active sex life? What exactly do you mean by incel?"

I was hoping to get him to just actually think about the words he was using. Instead he doubled down on his in-group/out-grouo mentality and explained more expressively that "anyone who identitifies as incel, red pill, or white supremacists (as if those were even tangentially related) is not allowed in this group." So I explained that I had watched The Red Pill movie, found it interesting and offered to buy him a copy if he'd view it. This is where the ban hammer feel.

Now I run my own local poly FB group. Even though it's quite newer than his, it rivals his in size.

Such is life.

Estrogeena · 2018-07-28T20:29:28+00:00

Are you not asking about experiences in MRA spaces as well?

Vandechoz · 2018-07-27T07:30:13+00:00

It's most frustrating when getting silenced in the areas where you expect more open minds, and are slapped in the face with a big "THOUGHT WRONG" mod action.

Title	What are your experiences with being silenced online for your MRA views?
Author	AllSeeingEyebrows
Upvotes	17
Comments	32
Date	July 26, 2018 6:40 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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