Many women are using dating apps to confirm their attractiveness rather than find a partner, reveals study. Probably true but a very small sample size.

ilikerelish · 2018-05-22T12:00:39+00:00

I am shocked. Women you say.. taking advantage of men's desire to garner free attention and validation. Say it ain't so.

5th_Law_of_Robotics · 2018-05-22T12:39:46+00:00

So using social media for validation?

Shocking.

HPLoveshack · 2018-05-22T15:18:00+00:00

This is just part of how women work. Nothing new about this.

This is what a large percentage of flirting is.

Haven't you guys ever been flirting with a woman only to find her strangely reticent to move forward? I've had classmates, cashiers, bartenders, women on public buses initiate flirting with me, banter back and forth for a minute and a half, laughing and smiling, then when I say we should hang out I get a fake number like 20% of the time.

I remember once I was flirting with this girl in class almost every day for weeks. Initiated by her more often than not. I asked if she wanted to grab lunch one day and "I have a boyfriend." spilled out of her autonomically. When I responded, "So? It's just lunch." she turned and walked away like I'd told her she smelled bad.

thrway_1000 · 2018-05-22T13:19:49+00:00

Hello narcissism, my old friend.

Archive -- https://archive.is/f7eq7

shit-zen-giggles · 2018-05-22T17:56:40+00:00

two month ago (roughly) I was lambasted when I made a statement to that effect over at the askmen sub.

I hate to be right. I truely hate it...

PS: Thanks for sharing OP!

fengpi · 2018-05-22T10:50:58+00:00

I am so glad I have no interest in using dating apps.

I read a couple of articles about Bumble and Tinder the other day. They sounded absolutely horrendous. I think if I were to use one, I'd start vomiting within 5 minutes.

"OMG! You look good at fucking!"

"Yeah, well, you look like you can fuck."

"Yeah! I know how to fuck!"

"OMG, that's clever! Wanna fuck?"

"I dunno, can you jump through all these hoops?"

"Hoops, huh? Well I-"

"EEEYEW! That's a deal-breaker! -BLOCK!- There are no good mehnz left!"

Ultramegasaurus · 2018-05-22T14:22:14+00:00

Online dating is worthless for non-attractive men. And it's not easy being considered attractive by women and their ludicrous male beauty standards (while telling everyone that men are the shallow ones!)

fengpi · 2018-05-22T13:24:14+00:00

Or have fun with the liberal man-hating women by slapping them with their own logic. Some conversations can be fun :)

boy_named_su · 2018-05-22T18:38:26+00:00

Statistics is built on small sample sizes. The t-test doesn't even have a minimum sample size.

Gravel_Roads · 2018-05-22T15:14:44+00:00

I admit that I’d rather see MRA focus more on actual issues facing men. These sorts of EVUL WOMYN are /braincel levels of pettiness.

paper-street · 2018-05-22T14:57:35+00:00

What does this have to do with mans rights?

Hill-ry · 2018-05-22T20:57:28+00:00

Others have pointed out issues with the methodology and claims in the headline so I won't bother with that except to say there are issues. However, it is obvious a number greater than zero women (I'm sure some men do too, but there isn't the same kind of culture around affirming men like the culture that exists for affirming women) do use dating sites mostly for a quick boost after being dumped by an ex, getting turned down, or just for no reason in particular.

The problem I have is that many will point to this and complain but some of the complainers continue to shower women with compliments and attention. I mean, I know this is changing somewhat because at least anecdotally I've noticed more heterosexual men are reticent to compliment or ask women out on dates and more women are starting to complain they aren't getting the level of attention they're used to from men. However, it seems there's still enough of it going on for women to feel entitled to a certain level of flirting from men for their own ego.

I think heterosexual men in general should make a conscious effort to stop complimenting, pursuing, propositioning, or giving any attention that could be construed as flirtatious to women. Sure, at first this will probably mean both men and women will be lonely for a bit but eventually women will stop having to be the lazy daters they are and actually pursue men. I mean we know there were other societies where this was the norm:

In many cultures, it was the woman who did the erotic bidding. And in some of those cases, the male’s consent wasn’t always so clear-cut. In northern Columbia, no matter how homely a girl may have been, she could still score the handsomest man in the village, because if she were able to literally knock him off his feet by tripping him during a ceremonial dance, he was duty-bound to have sex with her. The Lesu women of East Asia didn’t leave much room for misinterpretation, either. In those parts, a lady simply lifting up her skirt to advertise herself to a man of her choosing worked like a charm. Since she performed this brash genital display in public, a man’s refusing such a transparent offer was perceived as a slight against her.

...Apinaj women in Brazil reportedly bit off their male lovers’ eyebrows and spit them out during sex, while Trukese men in the Caroline Islands could expect their highly aroused wives to poke a finger sharply into their ears.

I think this would ultimately be better for both parties. Men no longer feel exasperated with rejection or being toyed along. Lazy dating women will have to get off their high horse and start pursuing men, giving men some much needed sense of being desirable.

pintocat · 2018-05-22T16:01:38+00:00

Many women

very small sample size.

2018-05-23T10:33:59+00:00

In other news, “the sky: blue”.

I_AM_METALUNA · 2018-05-24T16:09:45+00:00

They use dating apps like they're own uber eats

Talbooth · 2018-05-22T16:43:11+00:00

Good for them, this is not a men's rights issue.

juanml82 · 2018-05-22T19:04:17+00:00

Is this r/incels ?

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