I feel bad for the husband :(

xNOM · 2017-02-26T10:08:51+00:00

I would be interested in hearing this woman's explanation for why women have a lower adult mortality rate and are happier than men everywhere in the world. Before the industrial revolution, adult mortality rates were the same.

Biggest. Whiner. Ever.

perplexedm · 2017-02-26T10:05:15+00:00

Age thirty-two, purple haired, and dressed in several warm layers, I boarded the charter bus with the giddiness of a fourteen-year-old girl.

Tying to find an axe to grind.

ChillinWithMyDog · 2017-02-26T11:32:55+00:00

How is telling someone to smile a sexist thing? I'm a man, and women tell me to smile all the time (I'm not an unhappy guy, I just have resting murder face). Sure, it's annoying, but like many things feminists go on and on about, it happens to everyone equally, and therefore can't be sexist.

bigdikrik · 2017-02-26T13:19:33+00:00

Pour one out for the husband....

ZzardozZ · 2017-02-26T07:58:46+00:00

Leveraging male desperation does not make one righteous.

Hillary_For_Prison · 2017-02-26T15:50:18+00:00

My husband's career skyrocketed as he benefited from all of my free labor and energy. Hell, my career would have been bananas too if the only thing I had to worry about all day was wiping my own ass.

Her husband's career skyrocketed because he was working his ass off. Overtime and being flexible for work go a long way to career advancement. I sincerely doubt she let him get by with just "wiping his own ass" at home. Career men typically have all the traditional male household chores/roles (handy-man, yard work, payer of bills, car maintainer etc.) in addition to fulfilling their primary role as major bread-winner. Also, let's just admit it, her assumption about her own career prospects is just that, an assumption and it may not be entirely based on fact.

Let me be frank: my husband worked hard and deserved the promotions he received, but he would have never been able to do any of it without putting the double burden on me.

This is called division of labor. With him as the bread-winner and working overtime to do so she needs to step up as the homemaker.

The extra time I spent caring about domestic duties and child rearing (that he didn’t) effectively stole time away from my professional aspirations, passions, and curiosities. My work was undervalued, entirely gendered, and completely unjust.

This is a head-scratcher to me. Nowhere in the article does she say what her or her husband's college majors are, just that both of them took some fem-studies classes. Nowhere does she say what their occupations are. What were her professional aspirations again? How was her work undervalued, gendered, etc.? The reader is left with just her conclusions and no reason to believe them.

Gaining equality in the world was always a battle, but damn, in my own home? Hell no, not cool.

Wait, she's complaining about equality while her husband works overtime and endures high levels of professional stress. She's at home tasked with dishes, laundry, enjoying their daughter and doing other far more enjoyable things. She also has more free time than her husband. She has the gal to complain about all that?

According to research, men who share domestic tasks with their wives report being happier and have more sex. When a woman isn't overburdened or exhausted from "second shift," she has more energy for sex and is probably in a way better mood. Vacuuming is not a boner shrinker, it's foreplay.

Let's get something straight here. This only applies when both the husband and wife are working similar amounts. If the wife is working 6-8 hours while hubby is working 9-12 hours the wife had better be doing the housework and she'd better be damned appreciative of hubby. If they're both working about the same then they should split the chores the same. If she can't handle doing "gendered" chores like the dishes, laundry and vacuuming then she can get her ass outdoors and mow the lawn.

You'll want to start working with more women because you'll start to truly respect them professionally.

That's a hell of an assumption. Most of the high-performing women I've worked with are the ball-busting type and completely unaware of how their words and actions impact their coworkers. The subtle threats, insults, etc. get ignored because vagina. Frankly, I don't mind working with women who stow the feminist shit and just do the job. I really dislike working with the ones who think they're hot-shit in a champagne glass while being completely oblivious to the overt acts of career favoritism they receive from management.

You become woke AF to racism, transphobia, islamophobia, and xenophobia.

An example of a clueless statement made by a feminist. Racism today is directed far more against whites than against blacks, hispanics, etc. Transphobia isn't even a thing. No one is afraid of trannies. What people are is uncomfortable participating in someone else's mental illness. Islamophobia isn't phobic. A phobia is an irrational fear of a thing. An entire religion founded by a raider who practiced and preached conversion by the sword that is actively invading and conquering Europe is a pretty rational thing to fear.

You become more empathetic.

Said the female supremacist who doesn't want to do housework while still expecting her husband to do what is necessary to bring home the bacon and fulfill all of the typical male gender roles. How many men can take a couple days off work and travel across the country to participate in an organized hissy-fit?

Bringing women up doesn't mean tearing men down. Bringing disabled, Muslim, POC, transgender, gay, or any other marginalized group of people up doesn't mean bringing the cis gender white man down.

Then why is feminism so insistent on attacking cis white men?

It means we address the real injustices and hardships facing these people. It means we level the playing field.

So....you'll be getting one of the difficult, dirty dangerous jobs that men do and you'll be fighting to include women in the draft, end lifetime alimony, make 50/50 child custody the default in divorces, repeal the Violence Against Women Act, fight for equal sentencing for men and women? Oh, wait, feminists don't want any of those things so you'll just keep the status quo on all of that, leaving men to get the shitty-end of the stick on all those matters.

It means we hold the collective belief that when one rises, we all rise. It means we love, and if you fall in love with a feminist, you're part way there.

Had to throw a bullshit platitude in there to feel good about all the cognitive dissonance spun above it.

Chipdogs · 2017-02-26T15:25:22+00:00

Telling a woman to smile is a form of gender-based harassment and it can happen anywhere, including your own home.

Bored, spoiled, sheltered western woman has no idea what harassment is

Apexbreed · 2017-02-26T08:31:19+00:00

https://archive.is/OMTjT

CaribbeanLounger · 2017-02-26T21:36:41+00:00

Jesus Christ, she's not a wife, she's a job. I just love how she reduces him to basically a hairless ape who does nothing around his house but 'wipe his ass' and the "only" reason he advanced in his career was because she was doing all of the work in the background. I'd divorce this bitch so fast it would make her head spin and I would GLADLY write a check to her every month (because you KNOW she's not walking out of there empty handed) and in the memo section of the check would be four words, "The Price of Freedom".

recoveringPHPDev · 2017-02-26T15:12:27+00:00

So in other words you become her bitch and surrender your cognition to her so you can get laid once in a while.

MagicTampon · 2017-02-26T15:36:04+00:00

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4man · 2017-02-27T07:01:05+00:00

If he really did take Women's Studies as is claimed in the article then he knew what he was getting into; he had no problem living alone, he chose to marry a feminist. If he's happy, more power to him.

Dank_Meems · 2017-02-27T21:37:26+00:00

I couldn't get past the first few paragraphs. Sorry.

merton1111 · 2017-02-26T16:27:53+00:00

She seems to be way more balanced than a lot of people.

Title	I feel bad for the husband :(
Author	Bruh45
Upvotes	69
Comments	27
Date	February 26, 2017 7:55 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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