The Ugly Side Of Being A Single, Attractive And Available Heterosexual Woman - Artparasites – How Art you today?

VoiceofLuke · 2015-12-17T23:56:12+00:00

I've seen a lot of these women. They tend to be heavy drinkers or occasional drug users. Then they get surrounded by the worst men the western culture has to offer and start a toxic venting session.

It's a mental condition, sort of like a fetish where the wires in their brain aren't quite right. Hearing their own voice brings them pleasure.

Most of western culture's problems are accepting mental problems as "just different".

Let me grab the source.

kizzan · 2015-12-18T00:23:10+00:00

If this is true and she has had this many bad problems with men, she needs to examine the type of people she hangs out with, and fix that. There are assholes in every group, in both genders.

kizzan · 2015-12-18T05:49:15+00:00

The problem I have with articles like this is that they completely ignore the hand women have in this behavior/reality. If women did not reward men for these behaviors, and instead gravitated to the men that did not engage in pua type shit, the problem would sort itself out to a large extent. In truth, women tend to be attracted to these behaviors and theyr'e unfortunately unwilling to admit it. Their lack of self awareness to their complicity is absurd to the nth degree. But yeah, all men are at fault here obviously.

I should add that i'm not condemning women for their affinity towards these behaviors, because i think that a lot of it is purely biological. Just like men are driven more by aesthetic than many other variables in attraction. Feminism and women can tell you whatever they want, but the truth is they often do not practice what they preach.

kizzan · 2015-12-17T23:38:04+00:00

For those of you involved in hookup culture, I am wondering how much truth there is to this. I realize that changing the name to rape culture is false.

I found this link on Facebook and two of the comments from Facebook friends were women saying this applies to all women.

lasciate · 2015-12-18T21:13:54+00:00

When a woman is attracted to a man nothing seems like a red flag, even if he's doing a patriotic Chinese semaphore routine. They will project amorphous qualities like "kind" and "sweet" and "charming" onto him no matter how questionable his character is. Surprise, surprise - when the hangover sets in and the hormone deluge wears off he's the one who has "changed".

When a woman is not attracted to a man she turns into Joe McCarthy and everything seems like a red flag. A man who seemingly checks all of her Kafkaesque "likes" boxes except the most important one, physical attraction, will seem like a cretin.

And some women - almost certainly the damsel-like author of this tale of woe is such a one - are attracted to red flags. They constantly "find themselves" in uncomfortable, emotionally draining situations - through no fault of their own of course - and refuse to examine why they're in those situations.

If I showed up drunk at a fwb's house claiming I had no place to stay I wouldn't be allowed in. And I certainly wouldn't "find myself" in bed having sex with that person. Then again, I'm not the type of man this author probably associates with in the first place (thank God). It must be scary to be an adult woman (probably coddled all your life by a single mother, but that's a whole 'nother can of worms) and find that you're suddenly on your own with only a kindergartner's level of ability to navigate interpersonal relationships.

I've never had a woman "take my word for it" that I had a condom on, let me haggle with her for more than 5 minutes for sex (let alone "hours") or present her with an ultimatum or [implications implications]. I have had a woman promise to "return the favor" and then not do so. The next time we got together I told her to do me first and she refused. I no longer see her, because I realized what the deal was. I have enjoyable sex because I paid attention to the times when I didn't and don't pursue those types of partners anymore. I'm not a slave to superficial charm or looks.

This author needs to be celibate because she's hurting herself and rewarding and reinforcing bad behaviors. Honestly she should probably go home to mom and be taken care of again (maybe for the rest of her life). It's only a matter of time before her self-inflicted brand of helplessness turns

I’ve never been raped [...] but I’ve been coerced time after time after time

into

I let him do it when I didn't really want to so he raped me.

mikesteane · 2015-12-18T01:10:03+00:00

The ugly side of being available is that some people take advantage of your availability. I wonder if there is a solution to this complex conundrum. What do men have to do about it?

v573v · 2015-12-18T13:47:38+00:00

If only society encouraged a culture that enabled her to have as much sex as anybody could want in a safe environment with a trusted partner... Like one of those gay marriages we read about in the news but for heterosexuals...

VoiceofLuke · 2015-12-17T23:42:32+00:00

Archive!

https://archive.is/MQoGO

kizzan · 2015-12-18T02:15:03+00:00

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libbylibertarian · 2015-12-18T14:53:29+00:00

We generate far too many hits for these mental midgets. Archived pages please!

CrazyInAnInsaneWorld · 2015-12-18T19:54:54+00:00

Rule #1 of Adulthood: If absolutely everyone you meet is an utter and irredeemable asshole, chances are the real asshole is you.

 ---Or---

To borrow a line from the Feminist playbook:

"Perhaps, instead of blaming an entire gender for your shitty experience with some of them, you should make an effort to meet better members of that gender? Blaming an entire gender for the crimes of the few of them that do so is sexist. Instead of blaming all men for your troubles, go out, change your standards, and meet better men! If that means you stop sleeping around so that the skeezballs stop hanging around your door, then you do what you have to do, right? Don't be a bigot, girl. Woman up, realize where your choices have personally caused you grief, and change those choices."

jackrands800 · 2015-12-18T01:29:30+00:00

Tough

sillymod · 2015-12-18T12:24:20+00:00

If you have occasional bad situations, you are occasionally running into bad people.

If you consistently have bad situations, it is time to stop what you are doing and look internally to find out why this keeps happening. You aren't responsible for people doing bad things to you. But if you want to stop bad things from happening, you need to look for solutions on how to avoid getting into those situations in the first place.

Rule 1 of being an adult.

DillipFayKick · 2015-12-18T18:41:54+00:00

The 'bad experience' this woman had is due to her expectations. So no, I don' think the men should have to change their behavior. If her expectation is set reasonably low for the experiences she's into having then she won't be so ready blame men. When I did the 'sleeping around' thing, I had plenty of shit experiences with women. I don't expect them to change, I just stopped sleeping around.

noth1ngbettertodo · 2015-12-18T19:26:30+00:00

Whenever I hear anyone, man, woman, non-binary, gay, straight, bi, white, black, tall, short, etc... make categorical judgements on an entire sex, race, demographic, etc... based on their personal observations and experiences, I automatically dismiss that person as childish and narcissistic with an unhealthy sense of entitlement. Grow up, reality and expectations of life sometimes (most of the time) don't match up. Sometimes, people are losers. In my personal experience, people who suck at life usually blame everyone else for their problems - but I could be wrong, it might actually be that the great majority of people out there who are losers and/or suck at life take ownership and responsibility for it.

Title	The Ugly Side Of Being A Single, Attractive And Available Heterosexual Woman - Artparasites – How Art you today?
Author	kizzan
Upvotes	35
Comments	52
Date	December 17, 2015 11:35 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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