As a girl, what are some things I can do to make life a little bit easier for the guys in my life?

aussietoads · 2015-11-15T02:46:04+00:00

Be yourself, be kind, be fair. In short, treat others the way you wan't others to treat you,

192873982 · 2015-11-15T03:00:52+00:00

Most of the problems men have in society are in special situations, like divorces. If you ever get a divorce, be nice to your ex husband. The law gives you the advantage and you'll most likely not be on good terms. It takes a lot of character to not exploit the privilege you have when you're mad at the other person.

The only thing that comes to my mind that can be done at all times, is to fight the empathy gap. Point out when a girl hits a guy that this is not okay. Stuff like this.

levelate · 2015-11-15T03:21:25+00:00

think, how would you want to be treated.

TechnoSam_Belpois · 2015-11-15T04:38:38+00:00

Others have mentioned it, but the Golden Rule is really the best thing here. Nothing grandiose, just treat men how you would want to be treated in their shoes.

I think a lot of men can appreciate that.

SirSkeptic · 2015-11-15T08:33:11+00:00

The root of mens/boys problems is the empathy gap.

When you hear somebody disrespect or degrade them, don't laugh. Or better yet speak up. Our society listens to women much more than it does to men.

So if you were to say: "Woah! Where did that come from? How would you feel if somebody said your vag was cavernous?" or "Hey, he just got dumped, lighten up! How would you feel?" or "Just because he's a boy doesn't mean he doesn't have feelings. Stop being so sexist.".

If people hear just a couple of statements to the effect that sexism against boys is not okay, they'll actually think about it. And the world is just that little bit better.

peasant_ascending · 2015-11-15T20:44:58+00:00

I don't know anything about you, so i won't make assumptions about your character. But if you ever see a fight between a man and a woman where the woman is trying to beat the shit out of him, YOU try to put a stop to it. You tell that bitch off and you loudly tell anyone important that she was trying to kick the shit out of him, not the other way around.

Stand up for the right to self-defense. Stand up against circumcision. Make the men in your life feel valuable and wanted and not alone or disposable.

EvilPundit · 2015-11-15T02:29:12+00:00

You have been shadowbanned by reddit admins (not mensrights mods). See r/shadowban for details.

Cerenex · 2015-11-15T02:57:30+00:00

I don't know where you are situated in the world, but being quite clear that you have a disdain for feminism, based on your own analysis of their standpoint, would certainly go a long way to alleviating concerns among the men in your life.

Substantiate your viewpoint and discuss it with potential partners.

In many Western countries, where the system is happy to tear apart a man's life for the purported slighting of a woman, knowing that your romantic interest is aware and in deviance of such absurdity is possibly the biggest treasure a man can possess these days.

And thank you. Women like you are not very common nowadays. I hope the men in your life realize the value of a critical-minded woman like you.

Lethn · 2015-11-15T05:53:29+00:00

Don't be a bitch, that really is all there is to it, most people here don't have any scary hidden agenda and they don't want women to have equal rights and that we're out to set women back.

That's just not true, so long as men are simply treated fairly, I at least will have very little to complain about.

ghebert001 · 2015-11-15T06:17:02+00:00

Do you mean guys in general or in a dating sense? I think the fact that you're asking this shows you have some compassion towards men that many don't.

In general, just be kind, like others have said treat them the way you'd want to be treated and earn respect instead of expecting it. In dating, know that guys appreciate direct over subtle hints. Learn to communicate and be reasonable in your expectations (nobody's perfect). If you have a disagreement, don't try to win the argument, try to come to a win-win conclusion because sometimes you might be in the right, but if it's not something that's a huge deal, let it go.

I don't know if that's the advice you were looking for, but it's the advice I've got to give.

Crimsonak- · 2015-11-15T14:56:27+00:00

It's a bit of a malformed question. Things don't need to be "made easier" for us. The majority of people don't want special treatment. Special treatment is exactly what the problem is.

The question should be "What are the things I can do to ensure I treat everyone equally?" The answer is; be aware of double standards, be open to criticism, respect the fact people can hold subjective views which differ from your own and that they have a right to voice them, treat people how you want to be treat, understand there's a difference between equal opportunity and equal outcome.

Thats it.

erenthia · 2015-11-16T03:02:47+00:00

Honestly, the best thing you can do for the men you care about is to become a Men's Rights Advocate. Educate yourself about men's issues and then educate them. Contrary to everything you may have heard, the fact that you are female will mean they will take you significantly more seriously than if you are a man.

I want to be careful about this point though. Because at first it probably won't seem like they are taking you seriously. They may dismiss you, but they'll dismiss you kindly if they do at all. At worst they'll say something like, "it's not as bad as [the evidence] makes it seem, but you're sweet for caring". But if a man had said the same thing to the same person he would be shouted down as a whiny little bitch who needs to man up and stop being such a faggot. This especially happens around the topic of male genital mutilation (aka circumcision).

Basically, the best thing you can do for the men you care about is to feed them red pills over and over until they wake up.

GenderNeutralLanguag · 2015-11-15T03:41:39+00:00

The issues that the MHRM is trying to address are largely BIG institutional issues dealing with law policy and procedure. You can promise not to abuse the hugely disproportionate amount of power the state gives you, but that only lasts until you change your mind. You can't opt out of having the ability to destroy a man's life on your word alone, the best you can do as an individual is promise not to do it.

awtr50 · 2015-11-15T06:51:22+00:00

Try not to be a dick

Title	As a girl, what are some things I can do to make life a little bit easier for the guys in my life?
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Date	November 14, 2015 6:31 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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