The mod of r/offmychest suggested that I post it here because this is not suitable for that subreddit.

vcardfu · 2015-04-27T20:39:52+00:00

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guywithaccount · 2015-04-27T21:04:53+00:00

r/offmychest is known to have censorious feminist-leaning mods.

wazzup987 · 2015-04-28T04:05:49+00:00

First off that post was totally acceptable, two if any thing that a /r/theredpill (its toxic so be aware) or /r/MGTOW type of post. we really don't care about your sex life we more concerned with systemic discrimination. three welcome four yes its bullshit but in the scheme of thing NBD,

Francois_Rapiste · 2015-04-28T07:39:53+00:00

I should tell you something:

You are no less a person or man for being a virgin. Do not let feminists, redpillers, or other assholes shame you into a desperate struggle to shed your virginity. That'll drive you up the wall.

I didn't even make out with a girl till I was 17. And when I did, it was with someone I really liked. Loved, even. And I ended up becoming sexual with her.

Redpillers would twist that narrative into a horror story because she ended up hurting me pretty bad, but I'd do it the same way twice if I could. It was something more than feeling a cunt on my dick, it was bonding with someone I cared about. It was sharing myself with someone.

Feminists will tell you that heterosexual sex is "problematic," they'll demonize your sexuality. Redpillers will tell you that sex is a weapon, that women are using it against you and that your prerogative is to turn it against them. Bible bangers will tell you that sex is evil. Neckbearded redditors will tell you that sex means nothing and that it doesn't reflect on you, in spite of its obvious importance to the people who have it.

But I'm going to tell you what sex really is, in its ideal form. It's a way for two people who care about each other to bond. It's a way to say what words can't say... maybe even entering the partner's subjective headspace. It's intimate, because you wouldn't let anyone but a sexual partner do those things with you or see those parts of you.

If both participants are healthy people, it will be done in a spirit of respect. I've had women who viewed me as a piece of meat and I've known men who treat women that way. That's not intimacy, that's daddy/mommy issues or whatever other bullshit taken out on people who don't deserve it.

I implore you to wait until you've found someone you really like and trust. A friend or a girlfriend who doesn't want to use you, but wants to know you intimately. Someone who respects you. And please, for God's sake, respect her back.

Pornography_saves_li · 2015-04-27T21:07:52+00:00

I've been an MRA for about 15 years, and have had a relatively large role in the modern mrm. I say this not yo brag, but to lend weight to this next statement:

This us not the right reddit to submit this to, if, and that's a big if, you are genuinely interested in learning why you are a virgin at whatever age you are, why people make a big deal of it, how to cope and how to improve yourself yo the point sex isn't a big deal either way, then I can point you in the right direction.

There are many who hold the place in contempt, but I submit every last person that does, does so out of sheer ignorance.

Go to The Red Pill. Do so with an attitude of 'give it to me straight, I can take it', and then act on the advice you are given. My guess is, you will improve so quickly, the change will take you by surprise. But it means accepting hard truths, both about yourself, and the nature of intersexual relations.

Approach that with an open mind, and you'll be ok. Insist on clinging to feelgood beliefs? You'll want to post in /r/bluepill instead.

Ultramegasaurus · 2015-04-28T06:36:04+00:00

offmychest is a SJW shithole.

Francois_Rapiste · 2015-04-28T08:01:11+00:00

In addition to my other comment:

Sex is something beautiful and special for a man and a woman to share. (A man can have it with a man or a woman with a woman, too, and there's nothing wrong with that, but since you're straight that's not the topic at hand)

It's supposed to be fun but intimate, and it's supposed to be exciting, it's supposed to make you a little nervous at first, it's supposed to come from a place of mutual respect.

I hate that some people tell you that your virginity is something to be thrown away as soon as possible. That's as bad as people telling you to save it for marriage. A young man or woman losing their virginity is a beautiful thing and it should be done with someone beautiful; it's a special thing and it should be done with someone special.

You deserve love, but the odds of getting it are higher the more you improve yourself; be yourself and do one better: be your best self. Someone worth making love to, who wants to do that with you, will come along.

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Title	The mod of r/offmychest suggested that I post it here because this is not suitable for that subreddit.
Author	vcardfu
Upvotes	21
Comments	134
Date	April 27, 2015 7:15 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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