tl;dr: I asked if "this" would be good advice to a rape victim, when it was actually someone saying that lonely, sexless men should just suck it up. Paste of my comment below.

Yesterday, I made this comment in the daily chat:

I read some advice on twitter, about how to deal with the aftermath of being raped, and I'd like to know what you guys think of it:

Sometimes life sucks and it’s not really anybody's fault & there isn’t anything anyone can or should do. The advice should be about learning to deal with pain and the unfairness of the universe without making it everyone else’s problem or making things worse for yourself.

What I didn't mention was that the comment was originally about lonely, sexless men, not rape victims. So, the responses are very interesting.

u/Katatonicsnake wrote:

That’s cruel. Firstly, it is the rapist’s fault and denying that makes it difficult to heal and “deal with the pain”. Secondly, I think it says a lot about this person’s values that they think rape victims are “making it everyone else’s problem”. The victim doesn’t have to learn anything from their experience (often they do, but still), and rape isn’t just another form of “unfairness”. Also, the last sentence “making things worse for yourself” almost sounds like a threat. If someone were to tell me this directly, I would probably assume that there has been a rape in their life and they haven’t really dealt with it yet.

u/samjeethydebased wrote:

after reading this I realized that my brain literally does not compute rapists as people

when I first saw this advice I was like "that's not bad advice" but then I saw another comment saying it's the rapist's fault, and I realized "oh yeah some people think rapists are humans", because I just mentally assumed they already took care of it

the best solution to rapists is to put them down, like the animals they are