In a serious relationship, how long should one wait at most before having a sexual relationship?

DesolateDanse · 2023-10-16T20:56:52+00:00

This question kind of has me wondering, if a woman puts out on the first date does that cause the man to lose respect for her because it’s “slutty”, or does it cause the man to feel prideful that the date went well and she’s clearly very into him?

I think 2-3 dates is fair though for both parties any longer and she’s either very religious or not into you.

saraimarsena · 2023-10-17T00:26:09+00:00

a bit curious what y’all would make of my relationship.

i waited with my bf. gave him head about 2 weeks into us seeing each other (would’ve been longer if we started off as strangers, we’d been friends and coworkers for about 7 months). waited for PIV for about 3 months.

i also noticed he was handsome when i first met him.

there were situations early on when i had strong desire to sleep with him but i decided to hold off until i felt comfortable and sure.

he’s my second sexual partner.

now 2 years in, im still extremely attracted to him and he knows it, my desire for sex w him is about 5-8x a week, ideally.

he waited, but in what way would he be a “beta”?

EverVigilant1 · 2023-10-16T21:27:44+00:00

I don't know what this means.

You have sex as soon as you both are sexually attracted and want to have sex.

You should have sex no later than the time period in which she had sex the soonest after meeting. So if she fucked a chad 2 hours after meeting him, that's when she should fuck you. If she waited to the second date to fuck, then she should fuck you by then. If she waited to the third date, then she should fuck you by then.

You should not wait any longer than the shortest time she made any other man wait. Almost all women have a Chad in their pasts. Almost all women have fucked a guy very, very soon after meeting. She sets that precedent, that's fine; but that's the standard by which all her later relationships will be conducted and judged.

If she won't fuck by the third date, she's not sexually attracted to you and you should cut her loose.

brianmfellenbaum · 2023-10-17T00:14:42+00:00

I never fuck on the first date … but if she don’t fuck on date two you gotta go 👋🏼

LocalTsunamiCat · 2023-10-17T02:01:25+00:00

Depends on a person. We waited for a few months, as we both were virgins.

I wouldn't be comfortable jumping into bed from the go even as a non-virgin. At least a month to get to know each other, get tested, then sex with condoms. Assuming we're exclusive, after half a year we do tests again and can experiment without condoms if he had a vasectomy.

SilentFroggy · 2023-10-17T02:11:06+00:00

If I could have a virgin, I’d wait a long time

curious_lychee9 · 2023-10-17T10:56:32+00:00

If she didn’t want to be fuckbuddies with you and has done it before(you can presume yes despite what she says if you met on a dating app and she’s over 20)it’s already over. I voted 1st date.

DurtyDanky · 2023-10-20T01:41:14+00:00

1st date? And that's supposed to be a serious relationship?

Wide-Illustrator2906 · 2023-10-16T22:01:57+00:00

Realistically, no longer than the 4th date but only if there is physical intimacy before that. If there's no touching and and fooling around, then the third date max.

kalashhhhhhhh · 2023-10-17T11:18:42+00:00

The shortest amount of time I've known a guy before sleeping with him was 5 months.

Walnuts_TheBigNut · 2023-10-17T12:15:13+00:00

Sex should happen straight away, it isn't as important as you think it is. I've tested this, I made my girlfriend wait two weeks before and she threw herself on me from temptation. Never beg for it, never!

Lonely-Bumblebee3097 · 2023-10-17T16:20:57+00:00

A friend (skinny average looking white guy in 40s poorly endowed) dated an Indian chick in her 40s who intially talked about having daily sex with her exes (well endowed masculine Indian and other race guys), she initiated the relationship, whe living apart there was making out, sex once on Valentines Day, she then says doesnt want sex until living together, once living together she says not til marriage, barely puts effort into intimacy but acts extra insecure with no basis but kept options, later says no "fantasies" (vanilla stuff like erotic massage), he leaves her for being toxic not for the delays on sex. She also changes her story and says shes only had sex 3 times all 3 in relationships including the once with him and says she has low libido, vaginal pain and fear of pregnancy before marriage. Later on she tries to get him back and promises sex before marriage, he gets back with her andshe flip flops and says not til marriage and says she meant she believes in the idea but denies she meant with them. He calls her out on it and she ends it. There are loads of Indian memes about sad simps who want "love" but the girl is always busy with "studies" and Indian women who get their thrills before marriage then settle down in a nonsexual marriage. Now she tells him she will have sex before marriage to see if she can keep up with a partners sex drive (he has ED) If my friend marries her what will be his future?

Weekly_Signal6481 · 2023-10-17T20:20:08+00:00

Depends on your personal convictions and morals

AssistTemporary8422 · 2023-10-18T03:49:17+00:00

Its crazy to me that people have sex after just 2-3 dates. You barely know this person or whether they have STDs.

Title	In a serious relationship, how long should one wait at most before having a sexual relationship?
Author	StockHamster12
Upvotes	8
Comments	58
Date	October 16, 2023 8:42 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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