Stop using 'alpha' and 'beta' etc. Use terms that are more realistic and harder to attack.

'Alpha' and 'Beta' terminology simplifies a complicated examination of a man's attractiveness to women down to one word, but it also makes it easier to attack because no one uses those terms in normal daily discourse. People dismiss 'alpha' and 'beta' and the whole conversation shuts down.

Reality sometimes sucks like that. In this case reality demands that we discuss the actual components of what makes a man alpha or beta: desperation, neuroconformity, looks, social status, confidence, and charisma. These are traits that people talk about with regards to men, not 'alpha' or 'beta' nonsense which brings up the debunked Wolf hierarchy studies that were even denounced by David Mech, the man who came up with it.

We need to be more granular about it and get to the very components of what makes a man alpha or beta.

Desperation: A man who is interested in women but not stupidly chasing (aka simping, persistently pursuing, etc) would be a low or zero desperation man, which is a net positive for him in the eyes of women especially if he is good looking or has high charisma. Low or zero desperation is essential for a man's success.

Confidence: A man with sufficient but not overblown confidence is also attractive to most women. Guys who go too far with this go overboard into cockiness or even arrogance and it only takes one good test from life itself (not even a shit test by a woman) to expose his weakness and overcompensation.

Charisma: Men with great charisma (often but is not always accompanied by a great personality: charisma >= personality) are also attractive to most women. Not much needs to be said here, you either have it or you don't and need to build it up. Women sometimes even make the first move on dudes with high charisma.

Dominance: Men with high social dominance are attractive to women as long as he's not domineering (abusive, forceful, etc) or trying too hard, either of which points to fake masculinity aka machisimo, which is a huge turnoff for women. He's gotta command the room and the respect of others to qualify as dominant (also related to high charisma). Of course some women say they don't need this - some women prefer submissive men and all, dated a few myself as a switch - but a man who maxes this trait will experience a dramatically different dating life than men who lack these traits, and like the closely-related trait of high charisma it can even trump losing the genetic lottery (looks/height).

Looks/Height: Some women like Kpop dude body types, but far too many women go for Jason Momoa. Lemme tell you folks, if you're tall and look like Jason Momoa or Henry Cavill, you're not going to be wanting for women, period, even if a handful don't find you attractive you won't be able to hear them over the throng of women trying to get at you. So don't let any woman tell you that Momoa/Cavill-looks aren't highly desired, it may not impress her but it will impress the 3000 women behind her. But if you lost the genetic lottery you could work on the other traits and compensate. Also women do date ugly men of lower stature simply because there's not enough tall, good looking men to go around. (Doesn't guarantee that they enthusiastically date/marry men who score low on these traits.)

Neuroconformity: No one wants to go there but when they talk about alpha vs beta this is a [i]do or die[/i] trait when it comes to a man's hierarchy on the totem pole of dating potential. This is how women work - not too many women want to deal with a guy who is neurodiverse, period. They exist but are very rare.

Silly feminists will rant about how these traits aren't necessary and they date dudes who lack these traits and they just love them for being decent men. Of course there are some women who are like that. But the vast majority of women go for men who are strong in these traits: or, to be more accurate, men who are strong in the above mentioned traits are the kind of men that most women desire. A man who is strong in those traits will never be able to even see the handful of women who aren't impressed by them for the throngs of women vying for their attention.