New to this sub so not sure if this is the right place to ask.

We have been married 21 years, but we’ve hit some rough times again. For those of you that divorced for reasons other than infidelity, how did you know when it was time to finally throw in the towel?

We’ve been in MC for a couple months (and the therapist is actually great), but lately it seems every week there’s a new fight. Our relationship has never been the same post kids, but in the past few months it’s been hard to feel much connection. We’ve been together a long time, so part of me really hates the thought of moving on. Yet I don’t know how long I can keep going like this.

Would love any advice or resources for navigating this kind of major life decision. Or if there’s a better sub to ask this, please let me know.