Crippled by divorce process

sak144 · 2023-10-08T15:34:34+00:00

The process itself is pure hell. No other way to put it. The person you married and gave a solemn vow to that you'd stick by through sickness and health and anything just stabbed you in the back.

It sucks. Good news is that once it is over, life gets better. In some respects, WAY, WAY better. But you have to take care of yourself.

DO NOT drink to cope with your emotions. You have to feel them and fight through them. Hit the gym. It will help you work out the stress and anger you feel, and also serve the double purpose of whipping you into shape for your new life. It will boost your self esteem and testosterone levels and you will start to look and feel great.

Go to therapy. You need an outlet you can vent to and vomit out all of that resentment and anger you feel. It is money very well spent.

Don't let emotions drive your decisions. This is now a business deal with an enemy combatant. You need to be very level headed and rational in how you approach what is going to impact the rest of your life. You got this. You are stronger than you think. And when you come out the other side, you'll be equipped to deal with almost anything life throws at you.

latamluv · 2023-10-08T15:46:54+00:00

Most marriages end. The divorce is something else. My wife decided to make my life a living hell. I ended up giving her 60% of a $10mm estate. I just could take the beating over years with me paying all the bills btw.

Lugubrious_Lothario · 2023-10-08T19:37:52+00:00

It sounds like you might benefit from some psychoeducation on trauma. I would highly recommend the book Complex PTSD by Pete Walker.

AxeMuley · 2023-10-10T17:40:49+00:00

You are doing the right thing by asking for help here OP. I am going through this like many here and keep asking, posting and seeking advice. I am in pain every day and just knowing that I am not alone helps me get through the day. Peace and strength to you.

Title	Crippled by divorce process
Author	ThrowRA_tism
Upvotes	4
Comments	12
Date	October 8, 2023 3:12 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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