Divorce due to Religious differences

collegekid1357 · 2025-03-24T02:14:24+00:00

I mean it’s not the 1960s anymore. I think you’re thinking it’s the religious aspect, but it’s more so that you’re not treating her like an equal. The “traditional masculinity” and “traditional gender assignment” thinking is misogynistic and antiquated. Also, you’re atheist for 30 years and then are now devotedly religious; it’s very interesting how someone (you) could be indoctrinated into a cult that quickly.

ColdWarVet85 · 2025-03-24T01:26:12+00:00

I take it. She’s never been to church. Did you just go and convert and she ever been with you? Was she ever like this before or is this something new? Was she like this before or just the last four years

Negative_Comfort6848 · 2025-03-23T09:58:17+00:00

God bless you and wishing you all the best.

derpMaster7890 · 2025-03-23T02:52:34+00:00

I don't understand how anyone can be religious. Just be a good person without the threat of a giant sky monster.

regertsrus · 2025-03-23T02:46:14+00:00

These women are the worst. Run!

LonelyNC123 · 2025-03-22T19:40:40+00:00

You guys will NEVER be compatable, let her go.

BTW .... I'm a recovering White Evangelical, still White but Atheist AF for 40 years.

Just let her go, you will have nothing but conflict the rest of your life.

mannotbear · 2025-03-22T19:39:28+00:00

Unfortunately, your wife has been indoctrinated. The left and lgbtq ideology are nothing less than a cult/religion in itself. My ex finds our political differences to be disgusting and an existential threat. It’s insanity.

PsiBeagle411 · 2025-03-22T18:26:03+00:00

Yeah, I got a divorce over something similar. We got married in the Church and I was pretty devout, then two years later she refuses to go to church and said it's evil, and we can't raise any kids with religious exposure. She preferred to be a dog mom over having human children, so we divorced. I'm still recovering.

zephyrwind87 · 2025-03-22T17:23:49+00:00

That’s tough. I assume you’ve read 1 Corinthians 7?

[12] To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. [15] But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. [16] For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

It sounds like she wants to leave. And so you are not enslaved.

RunSulk76 · 2025-03-22T16:49:52+00:00

Seems like you changed and want her to change too to match your beliefs. I see her side that she wouldn’t want to become Christian all of a sudden. What if you had converted to Islam and wanted her to cover herself from head to toe every time she stepped out of the house? That would really be following traditional male/gender roles going back centuries.

I am an atheist but I am not on board with the extreme LGBT+ ideology. In my opinion, the whole “gender is a social construct thing” is taking post modernism too far. Being an atheist doesn’t automatically mean you are a woke liberal. But I see no issue with who wants to sleep with whom. It’s not my business to interfere in other peoples’ personal lives.

If my wife didn’t agree with me on religion or politics it would not be a deal breaker, just a difference in opinion. I would not be ok with something extreme like non-monogamy if my partner suddenly wanted to try it. But barring something like that, I am not sure what is meant by traditional gender roles. I welcome equal involvement in everything like child care, house chores, etc. I don’t want a 19th century partner in the 21st century.

InevitableHorror1342 · 2025-03-22T16:01:13+00:00

My wife slowly became more and more obsessed with all of those things left leaning. She also became apart of the LGBTQ+ community in some way and after that, any differences we had weren’t just differences to her. They were existential threats. All aspects of traditional masculinity were deemed toxic and questioning of her logic were considered a life altering threat and somewhat sacrilegious.

When you say religious differences, you’re not kidding. The funny part is, she also is religious. She’s a part of a group that uses faith in an ideology over all else. That is the basis of most religions. So what you essentially have is a household that is half Christian and half any other religion. Which in some cultures does happen and can work.

I think you both need to just live unapologetic and confident lives . Though self sacrifice is a big part of Christianity, you best not do that here. You can still respect and appreciate her value as a person and as a mother but I wouldn’t expect the “you’re close minded and you’re (insert pejorative)” to end anytime soon. If anything the worst is yet to come if you split.

Title	Divorce due to Religious differences
Author	Abject-Soup-2753
Upvotes	6
Comments	26
Date	March 22, 2025 3:45 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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