We’ve been unhappily married for 7.5 roller coaster years. Outside of my wife and kids, I have no other family alive, no friends to lean on anymore, and I am broke since I pay all the bills and take on all debts/manage all finances in our house despite her making more money than me. I have sacrificed everything for her and my kids, but she won’t even acknowledge it.

I sincerely feel like I’ve done nothing wrong, but my wife is constantly accusing me of something or blaming me for every problem she has and demanding I take responsibility, even if it’s something like her 11 year old daughter’s behavior problems (probably has ODD) or her own low self esteem and obesity. She blames me for our lack of sex, since I have some health problems that make it difficult to perform at times, and when I try to be affectionate with her, she breaks down into a crying fit and starts a fight—then blames me for that, too.

To keep things together so I can be there for my 4 year old daughter, I’ve just endured it for years I’ve always had struggles with depression and suicidality, but when I’ve tried talking to her about them, she (a therapist herself—which means she is exceptional at always framing herself as a victim and manipulating others!) makes it all about her and claims I’m just being manipulative/selfish/sexist and refusing to take responsibility. Fighting and talking gets us nowhere, and a year of marriage counseling back in 2020 just resulted in her convincing the counselor of her own one-sided story of our marriage.

I suspect she’d prefer I just kill myself and save her the trouble of divorce, but then she makes me feel like an even bigger POS for even telling her I think of suicide when I have a family. She’s already told me that I’ll only get to see my daughter for 2 weekends a month, at most, and I know she’ll work hard to turn her against me.

I’ve bought a tent and traded my car for a Subaru that I can (uncomfortably) sleep in, because I expect that’s how i’ll need to live for at least a couple this summer, since I’ll not be getting paid again until late August. My life is about to be completely destroyed.

How do you survive this when you have no one to turn to? No support. No friends. No money. No job. And a very young, sweet daughter who means the world to me.