I’ve been divorced for a year and separated for two years. I have the same story as a lot of you. An ex-wife who I could never make happy. She cheats, sneaks AP (who she is still dating) into our marital home and everything is still all my fault according to her. We live apart now but we have two elementary aged kids and she fights with me via court ordered app about everything. It doesn't matter the topic…big or small. Everything from whether my kid should have an IPhone (which she just decided to buy) to cancelling kids dr appointments the day of that I set up to get them checked out. She goes out of her way to make my life hard and turn everything into a fight. I am pretty good about grey rock and keeping everything straight and to the point about the kids but I still have to engage because of the kids. My kids sense the turmoil she has caused and are very skittish when we are in the same vacinity as each other (kids sporting events). She likely has BPD ad well. My question is…Does this constant need to fight with me & blame me for everything slow down as the kids get older? I have a great life I’ve setup for myself after the divorce. I’m dating, I have hobbies and work is going well. All I want is relative peace for my kids and myself.