​My head finally feels clear and less anxious. I now have some time off to focus on preparing for the upcoming mediation. I’m still questioning if I made the right call by asking for shuttled mediation; looking back, I wonder if I should have taken the opportunity to complete the session in the same room as my ex. I’ll just have to wait and see what happens.

​Proposed Custody Agreement Framework

​1. Education and Decision Making

  • ​School Selection: Any change in schools must be a mutual 50/50 decision. If an agreement cannot be reached, the matter must return to the courts.
  • ​Costs: Funding and general educational expenses will be split 50/50.
  • ​Legal Custody: While 100% legal custody is my preference, the agreement will specify that both parents share 50/50 joint legal custody.

​2. Physical Custody and Transportation

  • ​Under 5 Miles: Dad handles all pick-ups and drop-offs.
  • ​5 to 20 Miles: The parent beginning their scheduled time is responsible for picking up the children.
  • ​20 to 30 Miles: Parents will "split the difference" and meet in a neutral, safe location.
  • ​30+ Miles: This constitutes a significant change requiring a return to court for schedule modifications.

​3. Holidays and Special Occasions

  • ​Standard Holidays: A rotation of six major holidays (three per parent each year).
  • Mother's Day & Father's Day: To be included for the ex’s benefit.
  • ​Vacation: Clear protocols for school breaks and annual vacation time.

​4. Financial and Medical Responsibilities

  • ​Insurance: I will resume covering health insurance premiums.
  • ​Unreimbursed Medical: Agreed-upon costs or medical necessities exceeding $400 will be split 50/50.
  • ​Tax Documentation: In a 50/50 split, Mom will sign IRS Form 8332 regarding dependency claims.

​5. Religion and Personal Conduct

  • ​Religious Upbringing: Each parent may make their own decisions regarding religious exposure during their time, provided no harm comes to the children.
  • ​General Welfare: Both parents agree to act in the best interest of the children’s physical and emotional health.

What would you recommend adding to a custody plan while I am making revisions before my mediation this week? Specifically, what would you include that is different from standard plans, or what do you feel should have been included in your own custody plan to make it more effective?