How do you stay mentally strong while dealing with these thoughts? Do any other divorced dads struggle with this? I try not to judge what I don't know, but I can't help but judge based on the past of the person I was married to. Life for my children with their mother could be better, it could be the same, or it could be worse—that uncertainty lingers on my mind. I feel like my children are living in two different worlds. It’s one of those questions that weighs heavy on your heart and keeps you up at night.