I am pursuing a divorce with my wife because we have grown apart in terms of life values and where we want to live. Below is a quick list of how we are growing apart:

-Babies. (I want them) - I told her multiple times to not pick CA as a state to find a job in, I was fine with any of the other 49. She moved to CA for a full time job a month later. - semi hurtful things were said, but we could recover - she started kissing girls, having sleep overs with her “friends” in the past 2 years. No concrete prove she full on cheated to the full extent.

We went no contact, now on month 4. Maybe because I’m impatient, but I feel like I have to file. She’s across the country from me. She hasn’t reached out. I’ve reached out 1-2 times and she ghosted me the second time.

She visited in month 2 of no contact, and legit said “I haven’t worked through any of my emotions and I’m 90% out.” That’s legit all I got from her..

I feel like it could work if either of us got rid of ego, but I feel like I can find someone who cherishes me at the same time and doesn’t just pick themselves time and time again.

Been together for 12 years. We are still amicable.

What would you do if you were in my shoes?