My wife is going for gold; full custody, full spousal support. She makes twice my income but quit her job and has been living off of me in our house for two years. She just filed papers last month. This is a woman who has drawn blood by hitting me in front of my kids, committed fraud by stealing $1,200 on my credit card (I was refunded after fraud review), tried to isolate me from my kids by telling them everything about our marriage and everything she hates about me the day before a trip I planned to see my family and that I was there at their grandmas to kidnap them, my daughter signed up for a kids mental health app the weekend my wife destroyed a family RV trip, refuses to let me take my kids anywhere long term because she told them she “would miss them too much,” lied about start time for TDay with the kids so I missed it, refused to tell me where she was taking them for July 4 so I couldnt find them, texted me she’d bring them to me on Father’s Day —— and my lawyer basically told me none of the violence or the parental alienation matters much without my 13 year old daughter testifying. That is insane to me.

I have done nothing but PROTECT my daughters from my wife’s attempts to destroy family traditions the kids still want to do, flaunts her boyfriends 20+ floral arrangements on the dining room table the kids can see, protect them from knowing anything about our marriage and just keep the peace and stability and the quiet. I keep paying all the bills even when she was making almost $200K and refused to.

And now the only way for me to get relief and avoid alimony and child support is to ask my kid, that I’ve protected from all of this drama, to testify against her mom? FUCKING SERIOUSLY? How can I do that?!???