I (29M) and my wife (27F) have been married just over 2 years now and I'm frustrated. We've been together for almost 5 years in total, no children, only 2 dogs.

  • We do it maybe once a month.
  • I get irritated with everything she does, singing, being too fragile with the dogs.
  • I never hold her, we sit on 2 separate couches at night with my phone in hand.
  • I don't want kids with her anymore, but I do want kids one day. The way she carries on when the dog sneezes makes me want to vomit.
  • I hate her parents, I would give that 50% of the blame. She's almost cut them off (Even though I told her not too) and they still manage to piss me off. I don't have a relationship with them.
  • I have to work 100% to be content and not have an issue with our relationship.
  • She's very jealous.
  • She doesn't do it for me anymore and she deserves to feel wanted.
  • Pretty obvious that I haven't felt inlove for a while, but people always say it doesn't last so I can't use that excuse. Even though she says she is still inlove like day one.
  • I actually fantasize about being alone and improving my life, meeting someone new again.

We had the chat Friday night and I said I want out, she's been trying so hard all of a sudden and that pisses me off even more. Obviously I'm having doubts about weather I should leave or not, but that bit I haven't told her, we are still staying in the same house. I told her I still love her, but we are not good for each other anymore. I'm turning 30 in 2 days and I can't see myself spending the rest of my days in the boring and settled, sexless, marriage. She says she's willing to work on everything and give me what I want, but she just isn't sexual like me, she is very decent and I'm not overly decent, I always feel judged. I've been with 46 woman, she has only been with me.

I feel hopelessly mismatched, she is begging me to stay. I wanted out 3 months ago then she pulled the suicide card, I stayed and now I almost resent her and feel frustrated.

Any advice will be appreciated please.