I don’t know what to do anymore. Got left early in the year after we bought a house together. I lived there with them for a little before she said we need to separate because of how we argue and what our daughter sees and I agreed so I left, I got a new place. I pay for everything while she looks for a job. She ended up telling me she’s talking to someone new not even a month later, now that person is around the house and around my daughter all the time and it makes me so uncomfortable. I didn’t want any of this. She’s the one who left me but why does it feel like I’m being punished? We have gotten more and more toxic. I used to be able to just come around the house and hang but now I can’t at all, I don’t even have access to our video doorbell. She’s taken all access to that house from me. I just want to feel natural with my daughter and her, they were everything for me for 5 years. Every time I go there, she’ll ask me to leave and I stand my ground because I’m tired of being pushed around and that becomes a huge problem. Yesterday was terrible, I wouldn’t leave because I just wanted to relax with my daughter in her own house but she didn’t like that, it lead to arguments and then screaming which my daughter unfortunately heard all and even stepped in between and said “please stop”
I wouldn’t leave so she threatened to call the cops and my daughter heard that and started screaming “please don’t, please don’t let them take away my daddy”. No 4yr should ever go thru that. I also made the mistake of trying to grab the phone from her to stop her from calling the police and that turned into a different thing and now she says I put my hands on her. Right now today we barely talk, I think I’ll be able to see my daughter later, it’s my Ex’s birthday today but I know she’s going thru it.
I’m tired of loosing it all. I think I’m done.