Any experience this? Have always had a good relationship with my kids (all adults now, youngest is 20). But now that divorce is in process they are backing away from me and gravitating more to mom. Mom was always the short tempered one. Always gave impression to the kids that they were a hinderance to her. When we first talked divorce she got worse. She had a boyfriend, hence the divorce, and I know she wanted to be with him. She wanted kids to live with me, hence the hinderance behavior. She would go out at night and kids would question her wherabouts. We hadnt told them anything yet but they sensed things were wrong between us due to he sudden need to her “alone” time. Fast forward a year. She suddenly changed her demeanor towards the kids. Became caring and showered them with gifts and priveledges she had denied them previous. Drawing them in so to speak. As a result they pulled away from me. I hardly see them anymore. They hardly speak to me anymore. Dont want to think she has bad mouthed me but I also wouldnt put it past her. I know its a hard time for them. I know moms are kids comfort. I know they will eventually come back to me. But this transition period is lonely without them. I miss them.