Opinions??

My1Addiction · 2019-02-08T23:22:25+00:00

You’re gonna get a lot of “don’t do it man”

But I’m gonna play the role of the little devil on your shoulder here....

Do it!

The catalyst for me taking my life back and realizing that everything was going to be alright, that I was desirable, that there was fun and exciting times ahead, was getting laid by someone who wanted me.

If your wife is out at bars and initiating this divorce, more than likely she’s doing the same. It’s over, don’t look back!

clephish · 2019-02-09T00:04:37+00:00

Tough one. Not because you have some sort of moral high ground you should take because at this point, it looks like you’re on the path to divorce. There’s risk on a couple fronts though. Banging someone you work with has a lot of potential problems that could bite you in the ass. And you certainly don’t want a new set of problems. Also, your ex could catch wind of your workplace girlfriend and make the actual divorce process hell just out of anger and jealousy. Nothing wrong with having the workplace relationship stay in the “friends” phase while you sort it out.

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tdabc123 · 2019-02-08T22:54:24+00:00

Do this right. Don't let temptation cost you the high ground.

33Wolverine33 · 2019-02-09T02:32:55+00:00

do it! If your STBX is going to bars, she's doing what she wants. You should at least try to move on!

CrackityGrieves · 2019-02-09T01:23:06+00:00

When your emotions are high, I personally think it's best to be cautious. If you think this will cause any sort of problem, maybe hold off.

IF you do it, be prepared for a potential emotional crash afterward.

I know everyone is different, but after I slept with a woman for the first time after my separation, I freaked the fuck out internally (Not outwardly. I was able to hide it... I think).

It was fun at the time, but as soon as I finished, I kinda lost it. Being with a woman other than my wife... It was surreal and scary. But that's just me.

Just based on my personal experience, if you still love your wife and the wound is fresh, you might be better off waiting until you heal a bit more.

AliBarakat · 2019-02-09T01:58:46+00:00

I say do it. If your wife is going to bars alone, then she is already getting hit on and probably having ONS. Just make sure the girl at work is STD free.

33Wolverine33 · 2019-02-09T02:34:02+00:00

But... Could be an issue, since you work with her. That would keep me cautious. Sorry, I didn't realize you worked with her til I thought about it a second time. Good luck man!

djones360 · 2019-02-09T02:43:35+00:00

You don't know how important this post was for me tonight. I have a date tomorrow night with a great girl and I was worried about your same concerns. I've seen my STBX post online that she's heading on a date, that caused me to open my heart to someone else. If you're not wanted by your STBX then don't accept that role of the martyr. We can make it through this brother!

OncomingSlayerStorm · 2019-02-09T04:17:20+00:00

My ex would never give me the time of day during our first separation until she saw that I was trying to move on. I say go for it. Best case scenario, it shows your ex that you are worth having, worst case you find something new to focus on and start to feel better about yourself.

Super_Juicy_Muscles · 2019-02-09T18:10:13+00:00

I would caution you against this, at least until the divorce is final, it could backfire spectacularly.

Title	Opinions??
Author	Shep432
Upvotes	9
Comments	13
Date	February 8, 2019 10:49 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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