Divorced 7 years ago. After a year (maybe it wasn't enough time?) I met an amazing and hot woman and we slowly got serious. For the first half of our relationship I had 50% custody, which seemed like a kind of sweet spot. I could really get into there with my GF, and could have solid time with my young kids. Then about 2 years ago my kids' mom left the state and I now have 78% custody....and things went downhill with my girlfriend. There were other lesser things, but basically it all boiled down to her not feeling like a priority. She felt like the received the scraps that were leftover after my kids got the lions share of my time and energy. We never blended our families because we couldn't really afford a large home where we live and our kids never gelled, and my kids were assholes at times. I'm not a checked out parent, but sometimes I'm off my game. This is a legitimate issue, but I'm definitely on their asses.

Yesterday we broke up. I feel depressed and relieved in equal parts. I understand it could be seen that my GF was being selfish, and I don't disagree. I've heard of other single parents having the time element being a barrier to a long term relationship when you don't blend.

I'm sad and thanks for reading. Has anyone been able to figure out this conundrum?