For real. I just keep an xl-sized widget for keep notes on my home screen on my phone and I just try to snag as many passing and intrusive thoughts as I can and then go back and re read them when I'm in a different head space to get a better look at the thought when I feel less pressed.

Our first counseling appointment is tomorrow, and I'm going to tell her that we are 100% inevitably and definitely getting divorced. And I can do that with confidence because every time the doubt starts to creep, I can look at how staying makes me feel when I'm in in that moment.