My stbxw, who right now lives down the street in a rental house…. Is getting a dog that is the father of my male dog….this is a fully grown dog, At least 75 pounds in a rental house with no fenced in yard.

I have a fenced in double yard for my dogs.

Part of the reason she is doing this is because my eldest son likes to come to my house partially because he misses our dogs.

I’m concerned that she’s going to start trying to have her new dog come over to run in my yard and play with my dogs or asking me to watch her dog when she goes out of town, etc. This would completely mess up the dynamic of my home.

The divorce isn’t even final….. And she’s acting like everything is totally fine. I still have bitterness in my heart because of her leaving and not showing any emotion whatsoever. This is not to mention all the shady shit she’s done in court so far and is likely still to do before the end of it.

I’m not even sure how to handle this.

I’m so tired of her introducing new elements into this already terrible situation.

The worst part is the kids are now going to be her ammunition to get what she wants regarding the dogs.

This is automatically going to make me the bad guy when I tell my kids that I don’t want the dogs to associate with each other.

They won’t understand why I’m trying to keep the dogs separated. They won’t understand what setting boundaries are about.

I can’t tell her “ this is a stupid decision” but I can almost guarantee she’s going to expect me to help her with this.

And at the very least, she’s going to use this to her advantage to try to turn the kids against me.