Timeline

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2026-05-28T01:02:15+00:00

Married 20 years. Caught her having an affair with her co-worker. Took me a solid 6 months to move on. Soon as I found the affair it was over for me but it did take some time.

My kids at the time were 18, 16, 12.

probebeta · 2026-05-24T07:52:27+00:00

10 years marriage. 1 kid. 1.5 years to move on. Moving on comes with a grain of salt though. In some ways I feel amazing, in some ways I'm hampered. Things get better with time though, but you also get older.

LaCathedrale · 2026-05-23T18:23:44+00:00

2 kids, 8 years, 4 years married.

She was already screwing someone in the family home within 3mo of suggesting we get divorced.

I tried to date and was a terrible wreck of regret and sorrow.

I'm now 9mo post-divorce and approx 1yr since we decided to separate, and realistically I'm nowhere near ready. I think about her (one way or another) at least daily.

I understand that if you can emotionally regulate (i.e. no outbursts of tears, no ruminating on her) for a few days then you're ready?

Ok-Cause1108 · 2026-05-23T16:38:09+00:00

2 kids together. Married for 22 years. Took 2 years to move on.

You'll know you have moved on when you stop thinking about her and stop hating her. Instead you move to indifference. She becomes a random woman you happen to have had kids with. Whether she wins the lottery, or lives in a cardboard box on the street, it makes absolutely no difference to you.

Candidate_Worldly · 2026-05-23T15:51:42+00:00

Problem with having kids when your marriage fails, is that you're always chained to someone you never want to interact with again. I'm totally over my ex, and wouldn't give her the time of day. Went from missing her, to anger to resentment to losing all respect for her.

Much better like that than pining for her.

Title	Timeline
Author	Economy_Plan4976
Upvotes	2
Comments	10
Date	May 23, 2026 3:39 PM UTC (2 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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