Equitable division state. I have paid legal council. I have a financial advisor. When I go to talk to them in a few days on this subject what should I focus on for a productive, streamlined conversation?

Material assets we have together I moved into the garage. Everything from hand towels to holiday decorations, including furniture, kitchen items, electronics, etc. I give up my claims to it. It’s all replaceable and it is an emotional reminder.

The PC,TV, and tower speakers are gifts to me.

Our retirements are similar in value. The home will be sold. I have made 2 years worth of payments on their vehicle, have 80k worth of receipts from home renovations, 40k in fertility receipts. They stayed at home for a bit then worked then went back to SAH months before the delivery of our child. Married 5 years. They want alimony + attorney fees paid because now they will be working a $15/hr job. They refuse to commute for parenting time hand off because of my income to theirs.

What do I ask for if any?