In the growing list of shenanigans. stbxw decides to, without my approval or consent, unenroll our kids out of their current daycare to move them over an hour away at another facility. Current lies uncovered so far:

1) Lied to the other daycare that she is a survivor of domestic violence and that I should not be notified of her enrolling the kids at the other place. (Filed a false TRO against me to have me removed from the house after I insisted that I wanted a parenting plan that was fair to our kids). Interesting how you can go from "Best thing that happened to me", to abuser. From Loving and caring father to abusive monster.

2) Told the other daycare that she hasn't been their current one in months and that she cannot remember the name of their classrooms. (Bear in mind I just picked up our kids on the 2nd of January after she dropped them off in the am)

3) Lied and said that our kids are victims of abuse at the current daycare.

4) left our kids at this other daycare until closing hours without even informing me that they were there. (I like a fool was still waiting at the daycare I have been picking them up from since the court allowed me this time, without fail). What human intentionally leaves their kids at a daycare in an attempt to make the other parent look bad?

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5) Gave one page of the court order to the other school. Intentionally left out the page which cites that we have joint legal custody.

Now I have to go back to court to hopefully get a judge to see what is happening here. I am literally fighting my tail off for equal parenting time, not to avoid child support but only to be a father. The amount of money I've spent in lawyer fees is nearing 90-100k. Current judge says that most other judges start off at 50/50 but he does not and that if I want equal parenting I would have to litigate. This is insane.

Never again can I accuse another man of "not fighting hard enough" - No person/human/parent should have to fight to be in their child's life.

What she is attempting to do is underhandedly rewrite the custody order. It's as if the courts find it to be an anomaly that there are fathers out there that actually love their kids and want to be a parent. Interesting enough, I have yet to meet a father that wants to take their kids away from the mother. Well I'll correct that, one, and he is for all intents and purposes unstable and literally hates his own father. Go figure.

I'll never understand how it is ok for new partners to have more time with another person's kids but God forbid the actual parent wants to be involved then that becomes a sin punishable by jail time.

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It's as if I am watching our kids be used as pawns, and strung along to the whims of my ex and all I can do is just watch from the sidelines. I know better than to even grit my teeth, become angry or even disagree as that may result in me being arrested.

There is nothing glorious about single motherhood, I was raised by my mother and vowed never to repeat the same to our kids. I am very grateful and thankful but It will forever elude me the current obsession of the courts who apparently by default is giving kids to ex wives or stbxw when the marriage breaks down. It's as if most fathers are viewed as a paycheck/atm and nothing more.