This sub has been incredibly helpful through the process. We jointly filed a couple weeks ago and are currently discussing custody and finances. She hasn’t worked in a decade and I’m a mid to high earner so I already know I’m gonna be screwed. She of course wants everything under the sun plus as much money as she can possibly get, even to the detriment of our kids (common story I guess). I’m trying to find a way to keep the house so the kids don’t have to adjust to two new places but I guess she sees that as unfair somehow. She hasn’t worked by choice for most of those years as my kids are tween and teen.

Right now I’m struggling with cohabitating. I basically sit in my bedroom or the office space doing whatever I can to avoid her. The problem is because I’m so emotionally and mentally drained from all this i can’t show up for my kids in the way I want. It’s like we’re ghosts walking around the house. The annoying part is I know what I should do but no amount of desire or effort can get me to do it. I really just don’t know what to do.

This probably didn’t make much sense but I guess it’s a pretty good insight into how disjointed my brain is these days. I feel like it’s all I can do to maintain my job and get the kids to where they need to go.

Guess this was a rant. Thanks for listening.