Where do I get some pointers to help me get back in the game?

Ok-Cause1108 · 2026-03-13T19:32:16+00:00

Corey Wayne is the only guy I have come across that understands women (well he and Doc Love who Corey learned from). All the rest are pure garbage.

Corey is great for landing women who aren't really into you. Personally I wouldn't waste my time with these women, but you do you. If you find a woman who has genuine desire for you then you won't need to follow Corey's dating advice, they will be stuck to you like glue no matter what.

But his book is great once you move past the dating phase into the relationship phase. Obviously all of us here have no clue about maintaining attraction during the relationship phase. Follow the book on maintaining relationships and you are gold for the rest of your life.

RabbitGlass5578 · 2026-03-13T15:21:02+00:00

Check out Corey Wayne's How to be a 3% Man......I think it could be helpful for you. I got it on Audible, and I have listen to it several times. There is some great information and insight that can help you out. One example is the way you phrased "Will you go out with me?" That sounds weak....If you are talking to a girl, and she hints that she has nothing going on over the weekend, or a Friday evening, what you should say is...."I'm free on Friday night, and I'm gong to take you out to dinner. I'm going to pick you up at 7pm." She may be a little shocked by the confidence. But that's the point. Sound confident, be confident. She will like that. And if you do take her out, and think that taking her to a dinner and a movie is good, I'll suggest taking her to dinner and NOT a movie. In a movie theater, you can't really talk and get to know her better. Take her to dinner, and then maybe to a Top Golf, or shoot some pool. You can both talk, and in actuality, it's like taking her on 2 dates. Your odds of getting closer increases with the more dates you have. A two dates in one day improves your odds..... Best of luck brother!

fiddsy · 2026-03-13T14:10:24+00:00

My 16 years ended about 7-8 months ago but permanent separation 4 months ago.

I have little to no desire to date but... I love women and I love sex.

The issue is, I was an extremely confident and sexual guy with plenty of experience picking up women far beyond my level but this relationship has left me a shell of the person I once was.

My therapist also highly recommended I take things slow so the game plan has been to create a profile and pretty much just work on my chat game.

TBH, I've been relatively surprised with the apps.. I got a heap of likes but most of them were older or stinkers.

I have changed my game plan because my ex was a 9-10 on looks (and this isnt bias - everyone who sees her - men or women - always comment on her beauty) but a 5-6 in personality.

Id much prefer a 6 in looks and a 10 in personality. Unfortunately its hard not to use the ex as a baseline for attractiveness.

Anyway... I digress. I legit thought Id get no matches or likes.

Ive actually had a surprising amount of likes and a about 6 matches although if im being honest, I've been super selective on who I swipe.

If they use filters = no Usually ugly as fk and using filters to hide it.

If its head shots only = no Almost always fat as fk

If they have multiple pictures with friends = no Because its usually the fat and/or ugly one selling themselves off their friends.

If their photos are glamour models = no Either trying to build their IG profiles, hookers/OF, bombarded with options or they are on their for their validation hit.

Been fun working on my chat game and I've even used AI on occasions to spark the convos back up if they start to fizzle.

Its certainly rebuilding my confidence.

crager34 · 2026-03-13T12:07:13+00:00

NEVER forget what it felt like getting a divorce.
Your mirror is your friend. Look, and if you don’t like something, change what you can. Learn to love what you can’t change.
Love who you are 100% because when you don’t get that women, you are still 100%.
Look up The Attitude from Fast Times at Ridgemont High. Albeit crude, it works. See #3.

This works for women also.

too-far-for-missiles · 2026-03-13T05:27:14+00:00

Honestly you probably have better game than you think. You're just rusty. Force yourself to practice and it'll all come back pretty quickly.

Gattsama · 2026-03-13T05:23:47+00:00

Would recommend the book "Models" by Mark Manson. Focuses on stepping back and asking yourself what you actually want in a relationship and from women, to be vulnerable, to be honest, and most importantly to be direct.

You want to work on apathy. The apathy shall set you free. You don't want to focus on one-itis or get two focused on one individual. There is no shortage of women on the planet, they're everywhere.

There is a shortage of good women. However. It's largely a numbers game. You have to dig through large numbers of shit to find the rocks, lots of rocks to find the gems, lots of gyms to find the diamonds.

The most important thing is knowing what you want and what your boundaries are before you go on the market. Looking. If you don't know what you want and you don't know your boundaries; with most guys end up doing is settling for whatever they can get. This often leads to unhealthy interactions and sometimes dysfunctional relationships.

If you know what you want and you have strong boundaries. You should be vetting women, not interviewing them. When you interview. You're looking for reasons to keep or hire somebody. When you're vetting, you're looking for reasons to cut or fire them.

Men should be vetting. If this woman is not compatible with what you want or your boundaries. No big deal. You just move on to somebody else. Again there is no shortage of women.

Title	Where do I get some pointers to help me get back in the game?
Author	meegwell01
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Date	March 13, 2026 5:06 AM UTC (5 months ago)
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