26 y/o virgin looking for advice

rainbowbarfff · 2021-02-15T03:40:16+00:00

You don’t need a girlfriend. You need friends. Focus on making friends first and work on your social skills through them first, the girlfriend will follow.

BrokenArrows95 · 2021-02-15T05:23:00+00:00

Why would it even come up? I doubt the girl will want to talk about it. Just find people you like and go from there.

zeroicemaze · 2021-02-15T03:22:00+00:00

be honest

throwaway33333333303 · 2021-02-15T05:23:19+00:00

Women are not going to be interested in when/if you lost your virginity, at least not at the outset. Try to focus on getting dates in the first place and establishing a long-term relationship with someone who you care about and who cares about you and in that context it'll make sense to share your mutual experiences sexually.

Entropy212 · 2021-02-15T06:36:58+00:00

I would say be yourself. Girls will be impressed that you have it together in others ways, meaning it's not necessarily a negative to be a little odd on the social side. Get in where you fit in.

deedee2344 · 2021-02-15T17:32:28+00:00

What kind of connection are you looking for? If you're looking for a legit connection, then it won't matter to her. This sex clout/experience stuff is so overrated, but I can understand at the same time. I lost my virginity at 26 - before then, it was such a freaking big thing in my head. Afterwards, you realize it really doesn't matter that much - at least with the kind of person that I'm looking to be with. I agree with u/rainbowbarfff - focus on making genuine connections. The rest will follow. As a woman, I'll also say that a man's sex-perience doesn't matter so much. If the guy is true to himself, comfortable with who he is, kind, and takes care of himself, these qualities matters much, much more to me than how much time he's spent in the sack. When two people are genuinely into each other, that's like 80% of sex for me - the rest can be learnt and explored together.

cuicksilver · 2021-02-15T07:47:17+00:00

No girl will likely ask you that. Odds are you’ll eventually hit it off with someone and before things get too physical, you can let her know so she has simpler expectations for your first time together.

If that’s a turnoff then she’s not a good match for you; it’s not a negative reflection of you.

Tyrannical_Turret · 2021-02-16T03:07:04+00:00

Keep it real, and keep your virginity. Dont have sex with anyone you wouldnt want to have a kid with. Having the willpower to say no and having a level of self respect about not just hooking up already puts you ahead of the rest. Id highly recommend keeping your V card until you're ready to be a father, otherwise just focus on making good true friends with people who want the best for you and who you want the best for them as well. Sex is only special when its with someone you truly love and who also truly loves you, dont waste it on anything else.

cvntcvntcvnt · 2021-02-16T06:06:14+00:00

If your social skills need work, you’re in no place to plan on losing virginity. Small goals all the way, otherwise we stay stuck.

You say you’re in a hole. Therapy would be a great first step. Tell them your goals and where you want to be in your life. The work is slow and steady but much more useful and meaningful than if you stay on Reddit looking for answers. Look into acceptance and commitment therapy. There is always hope.

SnooMachines7712 · 2021-02-16T16:09:49+00:00

Why wouldn't you be proud of not having hepatitis, herpes, warts or HIV?

Anybody who tells you it's not cool to be a virgin is like the type of person who think's it's cool to be a smoker.

Philipparty · 2021-02-16T20:52:10+00:00

First iff, half lie. Just like you dont tell a girl you want to f*ck her right away, dont tell her youre a virgin right away. Just say youre inexperienced and have never really had the time to date.

Anyways, tips for dating. My psychology teacher specialises in dating and sex, so I can just give direct info. (Now, you already have wealth and fitness, so youre ahead of the curb). So, here is what improves your dating game. 1. Be extroverted. This can be faked. (It just show you to many people) 2. Be vulnerable/authentic. Dont change opinions around others. Dont lie (to yourself). 3. Be empathetic and get a sense of humor. 4. Learn to dance or learn music. (3 and 4 are the only genetic singns of a good mate) 5. Be direct. Even better if you can look beyond your urges and see why. Its enought to say a girl is beautifull, but if you notiece her eyes have a unice, almost cat like shape, that creates natural wings (talking about anna taylor-joy here), then that will be even better.

Beyond that, read models by mark manson

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2021-02-15T07:03:57+00:00

Visit a prostitute, and get it out of the way. Then you can meet girls, without the need to lie, or have the weight of being a virgin on your shoulders.

mrmuulatto · 2021-02-16T01:22:48+00:00

Dude go pay for some escorts and have a good time.

Title	26 y/o virgin looking for advice
Author	JasonReedemy
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Comments	23
Date	February 15, 2021 3:21 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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